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He wants to move out of sober living
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 637480" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>If the case manager believes he is not ready, then that seems to be the person to listen to about his getting his own place at this time. </p><p></p><p>As far as the new roommate, perhaps telling him that one of the steps to getting his own apartment is being able to find solutions to the present issues he is dealing with to prove to you and to his caseworker that he is capable of the life skill of figuring out how to deal with problems. Maybe offer him some guidelines as to how to approach the new roommate or the house manager. Perhaps explaining to him that this is exactly the kind of thing, his unhappiness with the new roommate, that he will encounter pretty regularly in the real world and he has to find ways to work it through or he will be staying in sober living for a long time to come. </p><p></p><p>I think calling the case manager and checking in with her is ok. You are part of his support team. It sounds to me as if you are doing all the right things. He may or may not be manipulating you, he wants something and he's using what he knows to get what he wants, but he is also having a lot of successes and doing a good job. It makes a certain amount of sense that he is inpatient and wants out, but if he is not ready yet, then your reinforcement of a plan of action seems appropriate and right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 637480, member: 13542"] If the case manager believes he is not ready, then that seems to be the person to listen to about his getting his own place at this time. As far as the new roommate, perhaps telling him that one of the steps to getting his own apartment is being able to find solutions to the present issues he is dealing with to prove to you and to his caseworker that he is capable of the life skill of figuring out how to deal with problems. Maybe offer him some guidelines as to how to approach the new roommate or the house manager. Perhaps explaining to him that this is exactly the kind of thing, his unhappiness with the new roommate, that he will encounter pretty regularly in the real world and he has to find ways to work it through or he will be staying in sober living for a long time to come. I think calling the case manager and checking in with her is ok. You are part of his support team. It sounds to me as if you are doing all the right things. He may or may not be manipulating you, he wants something and he's using what he knows to get what he wants, but he is also having a lot of successes and doing a good job. It makes a certain amount of sense that he is inpatient and wants out, but if he is not ready yet, then your reinforcement of a plan of action seems appropriate and right. [/QUOTE]
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