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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 574137" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>It is a little bit about adoption in my humble opinion. During those times when the sadness of our situations comes to the surface, I think the other parenting losses mix in. If you're someone who adopted after the loss of a dream for having a biological child it does compound things. Not that adoption is less than, but that there was grief over the whole pregnancy-birth-bio child dream. I think feeling loss of hopes or dreams or even goals triggers all of it sometimes. It's not that I don't value and adore my son as he is, just that it really feels sad some days. </p><p>Even reading these posts saying what new goals and dreams families have, I get sad. I don't even know if Q will be happy and a good person no matter what level of life he achieves. And when it's hard, I do dream of having another child, not to replace this experience, because I wouldn't trade q for anything, but to have that parenting experience with a few more of the things I love about caring for kids. Hand holdind, reading stories, cuddling, fixing boo boos ...all things q rarely allowed me to do. (I have helped raise kids since age 11 so know I love those things).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 574137, member: 12886"] It is a little bit about adoption in my humble opinion. During those times when the sadness of our situations comes to the surface, I think the other parenting losses mix in. If you're someone who adopted after the loss of a dream for having a biological child it does compound things. Not that adoption is less than, but that there was grief over the whole pregnancy-birth-bio child dream. I think feeling loss of hopes or dreams or even goals triggers all of it sometimes. It's not that I don't value and adore my son as he is, just that it really feels sad some days. Even reading these posts saying what new goals and dreams families have, I get sad. I don't even know if Q will be happy and a good person no matter what level of life he achieves. And when it's hard, I do dream of having another child, not to replace this experience, because I wouldn't trade q for anything, but to have that parenting experience with a few more of the things I love about caring for kids. Hand holdind, reading stories, cuddling, fixing boo boos ...all things q rarely allowed me to do. (I have helped raise kids since age 11 so know I love those things). [/QUOTE]
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