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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 288346" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Shawna I am so sorry, I was afraid something like this has happened. So many of the things you have said are so familar to me, why do they choose to live the life they do when we offer them so much, why would they rather live on the street or worse just because they can't follow some simple rules, why do they think so little of themselves that they will live like that, why did God do this to us and if there is a God why is he allowing it to continue.</p><p></p><p>I have thought all those things myself and my situation is not yet as dreadful as yours. It is why I need to have my difficult child leave our home soon before it can get that bad. I too am a nervous wreck most of the time. I can't eat or sleep when she is acting out, I am almost afraid of her and what she is capable of doing. I won't leave her in our house alone for fear of who she will have come in. She was spending nights at a house in foreclosure where there were no parents and all the kids were drugging and drinking and stealing things and selling them for money. Many of the boys staying there have been arrested for various crimes over the past month, including breaking into a home of one of their friends and trashing it and then videotaping several of them having sex with girls in the trashed house.</p><p></p><p>I was just thinking today that there are some people, and my difficult child is one of them and obviously so is yours, that just do not value human life like we do. They don't value their own or anyone else's life to guard it and keep it safe. As hard as I try I just can't understand why, they just have far different values. I look around our home and at our family and I can't for the life of me understand why she wants to throw that all away for a life that will be filled with nothing but misery. There is no other way to explain why our difficult child's live on the edge. They are born far different than we are and we just can't understand. It makes me angry because we spend so much of our life worrying about them and trying to get them help and they spend their life doing whatever they want and not caring about anyone or anything else. </p><p></p><p>Shawna you have to take care of yourself. I have finally gotten to the point where I can detach rather quickly, as soon as she starts her abusive behavior. I simply decided I won't live like this any longer. I will never stop loving her and I will be here if she wants my help, but really wants it, not just a handout until she can run again.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are hurting. I know the feeling of complete despair when there is nothing you can do but worry. It is out of your control. You will have to somehow stop thinking of how she is living and go on with your life and be there for her if and when she decides to change.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p><p></p><p>P.S.</p><p></p><p>Star continues to be my hero. When you start that website Shawna or the support group, I will be there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 288346, member: 59"] Shawna I am so sorry, I was afraid something like this has happened. So many of the things you have said are so familar to me, why do they choose to live the life they do when we offer them so much, why would they rather live on the street or worse just because they can't follow some simple rules, why do they think so little of themselves that they will live like that, why did God do this to us and if there is a God why is he allowing it to continue. I have thought all those things myself and my situation is not yet as dreadful as yours. It is why I need to have my difficult child leave our home soon before it can get that bad. I too am a nervous wreck most of the time. I can't eat or sleep when she is acting out, I am almost afraid of her and what she is capable of doing. I won't leave her in our house alone for fear of who she will have come in. She was spending nights at a house in foreclosure where there were no parents and all the kids were drugging and drinking and stealing things and selling them for money. Many of the boys staying there have been arrested for various crimes over the past month, including breaking into a home of one of their friends and trashing it and then videotaping several of them having sex with girls in the trashed house. I was just thinking today that there are some people, and my difficult child is one of them and obviously so is yours, that just do not value human life like we do. They don't value their own or anyone else's life to guard it and keep it safe. As hard as I try I just can't understand why, they just have far different values. I look around our home and at our family and I can't for the life of me understand why she wants to throw that all away for a life that will be filled with nothing but misery. There is no other way to explain why our difficult child's live on the edge. They are born far different than we are and we just can't understand. It makes me angry because we spend so much of our life worrying about them and trying to get them help and they spend their life doing whatever they want and not caring about anyone or anything else. Shawna you have to take care of yourself. I have finally gotten to the point where I can detach rather quickly, as soon as she starts her abusive behavior. I simply decided I won't live like this any longer. I will never stop loving her and I will be here if she wants my help, but really wants it, not just a handout until she can run again. I am so sorry you are hurting. I know the feeling of complete despair when there is nothing you can do but worry. It is out of your control. You will have to somehow stop thinking of how she is living and go on with your life and be there for her if and when she decides to change. Hugs, Nancy P.S. Star continues to be my hero. When you start that website Shawna or the support group, I will be there. [/QUOTE]
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