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<blockquote data-quote="barneysmom" data-source="post: 379260" data-attributes="member: 1872"><p>Hello Elizabeth, welcome.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the need for a complete evaluation for your son because as MWM said, his behavior is over the top. My gut reaction is that it's over the top because the schoolwork is so impossible for him that he will do anything he can to avoid it. Because he can't do it.</p><p></p><p>How long have you been homeschooling and why did you choose to homeschool? I homeschooled for four years and belonged to a homeschool support group at CABF (for bipolar kids -- not saying your kid is bipolar, but he is special needs of some sort). Anyway the advice we always gave one another was, if the kid is unstable, bag school, and focus on comfort and coping skills. Warm bath with Epsom salts was a biggie -- Epsom has magnesium which is a muscle relaxer. Quiet room, legos (does he still play legos?), read aloud, draw or color. What is he listening to on his headphones? Is it relaxing? Maybe he could listen to an audiobook. What does he like to do to relax? He should do that (if not stimulating). Watch a movie together. Walks in the woods gathering leaves now if you have autumn. Low stimulant is the key, and re-establishing connection with your son. You can record all this as homeschooling -- coping skills, health management, social skills, language arts for the movie or audiobook. A set curriculum may be to rigid and stressful for him now. And definitely for you. </p><p></p><p>This may be hard, and challenge your vision and philosophy of homeschooling. This is just what worked for me, and it's what I was taught on the homeschool group so I'm offering it as a suggestion. </p><p></p><p>When I homeschooled, I followed the unschooling method. This is just what worked for us. difficult child had to be interested in it or he wouldn't do it. He was at grade level when he returned to school after 4 years of homeschooling (things eventually spiraled down but that's not part of this story).</p><p></p><p>Anyway. Good luck. Maybe make stress reduction your first priority and go from there. You are not to be thinking you are a bad parent because you are unable to teach your son what he cannot learn right now. </p><p></p><p>Jo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="barneysmom, post: 379260, member: 1872"] Hello Elizabeth, welcome. I agree with the need for a complete evaluation for your son because as MWM said, his behavior is over the top. My gut reaction is that it's over the top because the schoolwork is so impossible for him that he will do anything he can to avoid it. Because he can't do it. How long have you been homeschooling and why did you choose to homeschool? I homeschooled for four years and belonged to a homeschool support group at CABF (for bipolar kids -- not saying your kid is bipolar, but he is special needs of some sort). Anyway the advice we always gave one another was, if the kid is unstable, bag school, and focus on comfort and coping skills. Warm bath with Epsom salts was a biggie -- Epsom has magnesium which is a muscle relaxer. Quiet room, legos (does he still play legos?), read aloud, draw or color. What is he listening to on his headphones? Is it relaxing? Maybe he could listen to an audiobook. What does he like to do to relax? He should do that (if not stimulating). Watch a movie together. Walks in the woods gathering leaves now if you have autumn. Low stimulant is the key, and re-establishing connection with your son. You can record all this as homeschooling -- coping skills, health management, social skills, language arts for the movie or audiobook. A set curriculum may be to rigid and stressful for him now. And definitely for you. This may be hard, and challenge your vision and philosophy of homeschooling. This is just what worked for me, and it's what I was taught on the homeschool group so I'm offering it as a suggestion. When I homeschooled, I followed the unschooling method. This is just what worked for us. difficult child had to be interested in it or he wouldn't do it. He was at grade level when he returned to school after 4 years of homeschooling (things eventually spiraled down but that's not part of this story). Anyway. Good luck. Maybe make stress reduction your first priority and go from there. You are not to be thinking you are a bad parent because you are unable to teach your son what he cannot learn right now. Jo [/QUOTE]
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