Hi everyone. I just found this board this morning, and feel like I may get some good information here! I'm Lindsay, and I have 3 sons who are 5, 3, and 16 months. The 3 year old, Dylan, is the one I am most concerned about. One minute he is being all sweet and loving, and the next he is aggressive and mean. Since he was around 1 or so, he started getting aggrivated rather easily, showing his temper by smacking me when I was holding him or screaming at the top of his lungs. I feel the screaming now isn't quite as bad, but the physical violence has gotten worse. He hits with open and closed fists, throws toys or other objects at us, spits, tells us to shut up, etc. He goes to preschool, and earlier on in the school year, they asked if they could move him from the 3 year old room into the 4-5 year old room because he was "stalking" (their word) and bothering a little girl in his class because he liked her too much - trying to hug her, pick her up, make her play with him, etc., and when they tried to discourage it, he apparently turned the aggression onto the child, eventually, in his words , "spanking" her on the playground because she was "looking at him", and eventually I got a call that he had pushed her off of the jungle gym. So they figured that maybe in an older class, where he would be the little one (he was much bigger than this little girl), he wouldn't be as likely to be aggressive. It worked for a while, but now I am starting to get reports that he is telling his teacher no/not listening very well to instruction, that he gets very angry because the other kids won't play with him which leads to him either hitting them or throwing toys. Last night he told me that one of his teachers "yelled at him on the bench". I asked why, and he told me because he hit 2 kids. He sees nothing wrong with what he does, and instead thinks those who discipline him (us, teachers, etc.) are "bad". He will walk over to our 16 month old and hit him in the head with a toy (does that quite often) for no reason, often hard enough to leave a bump, push him down, drag him around. He also bullies his 5 year old brother, often throwing toys at him, going up and smacking or hitting him in the back, legs, head, where ever, again often times for no apparent reason, just because he feels like it. He has spit in my face, at people, and on the ground when he is angry. I tried doing this one technique, 123 magic, that MY therapist suggested, and putting him in the corner for timeout. He will not stay, and acts as if it is some kind of game, giggling at me and trying to run from me. At her suggestion, I tried to passively restrain him in the corner by sitting him in my lap, his back to me, and holding him. That resulted in him biting me, throwing his head back and subsequently butting me in the face (but once I learned to anticipate that, his head would hit my shoulder instead), spitting on me, trying to scratch me, screaming, etc. We now just put him in his room, where he will throw a fit, telling us to shut up, that we're bad, etc. He is rather reckless - more than once, he has hurt himself after he climbed onto his dresser and jumped from it to his bed. He has run smack into our entertainment center, giving him a nasty bruise on his cheek. He has taken corners too fast and hit his head. He seems to fear nothing. Except for bugs. We have an awful time at night getting him to bed because he is convinced there are bugs in his room. He totally freaks out every night, screaming about the bugs...even with his light on! And trust me, there are NO bugs! Anyway, sorry for the novel here. Once I started typing, I just couldn't stop! We are at such a loss, it is putting a lot of strain on our whole family. I dread the days he is out of school, just because from the moment he gets up until the time he goes to bed, he is getting into something, being mean, etc. But, what is so baffling, is that, like I said in the beginning, he can be sooooo sweet and charming at times, when he wants to be I guess, laughing, playing, he is VERY affectionate, wanting kisses and hugs. It's like one extreme to the other. I dunno!