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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 136971" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi Lindsay, I'm glad you found us. We've had plenty of experience with difficult little darlin's so you're in the right place.</p><p> </p><p>First off, I would advise you to take the low road with this little guy until you've had time to do your homework, and if indicated, get any evaluations done on him. I agree that this is beyond typical 3 year old boy and it's a good age to search for answers. For now, set aside all the discipline that you're trying to do. Since it's not sinking in, there's no sense in frustrating yourself and escalating him. Do your best to keep him safe and keep others safe and let the rest go for now. Up the level of babyproofing if needed, supervise constantly, don't leave him alone with sibs, turn a deaf ear to sassy language, etc. Trust me when I say a few months of easing expectations won't set him behind in the long run. I'd also put a total ban on programming with aggression or violence (tv, dvd, computer, etc.). If the fear of bugs is causing you and/or him to lose sleep, then find him anohter place to sleep. (I'd maybe get a spray bottle of water and pretend it's bug repellent first though). In a nutshell, do what you need to do to make your life easier for now.</p><p> </p><p>You will want to pick up a copy of the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and also read the thread about the book at the top of this board. </p><p> </p><p>Can you tell us a little more about him outside the aggressive part:</p><p>1) Any family history of mental health/neurological issues: bipolar, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder (or strong tendencies), substance abuse, Autism, etc.</p><p>2) Any speech delays or differences or does he ignore his name when its spoken?</p><p>3) As for the reckless--does he seek out anything in particular--swinging, spinning, pressure, pain, etc?</p><p>4) Any unusual play behaviors or obsessions--lining up toys in straight lines or formations, quirky collections, interests or skills beyond his years?</p><p>5) How's the sleep? (his, not yours)</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there, hopefully we can get you some help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 136971, member: 701"] Hi Lindsay, I'm glad you found us. We've had plenty of experience with difficult little darlin's so you're in the right place. First off, I would advise you to take the low road with this little guy until you've had time to do your homework, and if indicated, get any evaluations done on him. I agree that this is beyond typical 3 year old boy and it's a good age to search for answers. For now, set aside all the discipline that you're trying to do. Since it's not sinking in, there's no sense in frustrating yourself and escalating him. Do your best to keep him safe and keep others safe and let the rest go for now. Up the level of babyproofing if needed, supervise constantly, don't leave him alone with sibs, turn a deaf ear to sassy language, etc. Trust me when I say a few months of easing expectations won't set him behind in the long run. I'd also put a total ban on programming with aggression or violence (tv, dvd, computer, etc.). If the fear of bugs is causing you and/or him to lose sleep, then find him anohter place to sleep. (I'd maybe get a spray bottle of water and pretend it's bug repellent first though). In a nutshell, do what you need to do to make your life easier for now. You will want to pick up a copy of the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and also read the thread about the book at the top of this board. Can you tell us a little more about him outside the aggressive part: 1) Any family history of mental health/neurological issues: bipolar, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder (or strong tendencies), substance abuse, Autism, etc. 2) Any speech delays or differences or does he ignore his name when its spoken? 3) As for the reckless--does he seek out anything in particular--swinging, spinning, pressure, pain, etc? 4) Any unusual play behaviors or obsessions--lining up toys in straight lines or formations, quirky collections, interests or skills beyond his years? 5) How's the sleep? (his, not yours) Hang in there, hopefully we can get you some help. [/QUOTE]
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