Hello all. I've been reading on the board for about three weeks now, trying to come up with ideas. I thought now would be a good time for me to post and see what others had to say. I have been dealing with difficult child's for several years now. I really thought that I had a good handle on things. About a month ago difficult child 2 was on his way to school on the bus trying to talk to another kid (younger) and apparently the other kid didn't want to talk. difficult child 2 just kept after it thinking that what he was doing was ok. The other kid started singing a song that difficult child 2 does not like. Quick note on what that is--difficult child 1 made up a stupid song; I don't even know how it goes. difficult child 1 taught it to the younger kid (whom happens to be a neighbor at other parent (OP) house). difficult child 1 and the other kid know that it upsets him. I have a suspicion that the song is designed to make fun of difficult child 2. Anyway--difficult child 2 started making threats to the other kid, which landed him in trouble at school. Suspended for one day, on home school for three weeks pending the result of a psychological evaluation paid for by the school. He is back in school, although not allowed to ride the bus until a re-evaluation is done in JAN. difficult child 2 is a generally good child. His threats were generated from a video game that I should have never let him play. That's my fault and I will be kicking myself in the butt for it for a long time to come. We no longer have the game, but still yet, the damage is done. He will usually do anything that I ask of him. His real trouble spots are dealing with frustration and social skills. We have started some counseling to deal with these items. difficult child 1--this kid loves to pick. But it seems to be only towards difficult child 2. And when he has a friend to show off in front of, it seems to get much worse. He is a smart child. Knows how to lie, does it on a regular basis. And nosy--good lord is he nosy. Wants to know what is going on with everything. I have gotten to the point of just not answering him when I feel that it is none of his concern. The OP--absolutly useless. Like a screen door on a submarine. Works two jobs just to pay the rent. Very little supervision of the kids. Most of difficult child 1's picking happens at OP's house. I try very hard to keep it from happening here. difficult child's go to school in the district OP lives in. When I get up for work, I wake them and take them there. After school, difficult child's each go to different places untill I can get there to get them. I told OP that I wanted to move them to school district where I am living. There is more stability here than there for them. This idea was not taken well. I haven't given up on it yet, even offering for difficult child 1 to stay with OP and difficult child 2 live with me. I want the best for both of them. I've tried being fair to both kids and both of us as parnets. But my patients is running out. I would appreciate any and all responses.