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HELP!!! easy child won't stop lying!!! Need Suggestions!
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 108721" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I found no punishment or consequence worked. What did work was not giving my daughter a chance to lie. I didn't bother asking if there were papers in her backpack. The routine was it was emptied out every day after school and everything would be looked at together. I didn't ask questions when possible. I simply tried to find the answer without asking. If I was forced to ask a question, I'd ignore whatever answer was first given and ask again about 10 minutes later. I'd either use the excuse that I forgot what her answer was or that I hadn't heard it. (That gave her an out to change the answer.)</p><p></p><p>My theory as why my daughter lied was this. It was automatic for her to deny anything when first asked. Once that denial was out of her mouth, she was stuck. She didn't know how to take the denial back (it really wasn't a lie per se, it was truly an automatic reflex). There was no way she could go back and make it right in her mind, so, the denial would become a lie. By taking the issue out of a question and just doing as much as possible without asking, it really did help.</p><p></p><p>She is now 20 and rarely lies. She may not answer if she knows I won't like the answer but the lying stopped. I asked her about this one day and she told me that she finally saw that the truth was easier. Go figure!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 108721, member: 3626"] I found no punishment or consequence worked. What did work was not giving my daughter a chance to lie. I didn't bother asking if there were papers in her backpack. The routine was it was emptied out every day after school and everything would be looked at together. I didn't ask questions when possible. I simply tried to find the answer without asking. If I was forced to ask a question, I'd ignore whatever answer was first given and ask again about 10 minutes later. I'd either use the excuse that I forgot what her answer was or that I hadn't heard it. (That gave her an out to change the answer.) My theory as why my daughter lied was this. It was automatic for her to deny anything when first asked. Once that denial was out of her mouth, she was stuck. She didn't know how to take the denial back (it really wasn't a lie per se, it was truly an automatic reflex). There was no way she could go back and make it right in her mind, so, the denial would become a lie. By taking the issue out of a question and just doing as much as possible without asking, it really did help. She is now 20 and rarely lies. She may not answer if she knows I won't like the answer but the lying stopped. I asked her about this one day and she told me that she finally saw that the truth was easier. Go figure! [/QUOTE]
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