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HELP!!! easy child won't stop lying!!! Need Suggestions!
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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 108789" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>That is a very good article, except that I disagree with this:</p><p></p><p>"Generally, the more <strong>intrusive or overinvolved</strong> parents are, the more likely it is that preadolescents will lie by omitting information. Often they do this blatantly, as if to emphasize their growing need for privacy. "Where did you go?" "Nowhere." What did you do?" "Nothing." "Who was there?" "Nobody you'd know." (emphasis added)</p><p></p><p>In my opinion, those three questions, "Where did you go?", "What did you do?", and "Who was there?", are not "intrusive" or "overinvolved". On the contrary, parents of preadolescents, and adolescents too, need to know those things.</p><p></p><p>Our easy child 3 lied about schoolwork too, and like you, we found that nothing worked. Eventually we hit on the same solution as MB and Star: don't give them the opportunity to lie. He grew out of it. (There were still consequences (grounding) for lying, when he was caught). difficult child didn't lie so much as just not get caught or openly defy and disobey. We cut our teeth on difficult child so the other kids weren't able to pull the wool over our eyes much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 108789, member: 3485"] That is a very good article, except that I disagree with this: "Generally, the more [b]intrusive or overinvolved[/b] parents are, the more likely it is that preadolescents will lie by omitting information. Often they do this blatantly, as if to emphasize their growing need for privacy. "Where did you go?" "Nowhere." What did you do?" "Nothing." "Who was there?" "Nobody you'd know." (emphasis added) In my opinion, those three questions, "Where did you go?", "What did you do?", and "Who was there?", are not "intrusive" or "overinvolved". On the contrary, parents of preadolescents, and adolescents too, need to know those things. Our easy child 3 lied about schoolwork too, and like you, we found that nothing worked. Eventually we hit on the same solution as MB and Star: don't give them the opportunity to lie. He grew out of it. (There were still consequences (grounding) for lying, when he was caught). difficult child didn't lie so much as just not get caught or openly defy and disobey. We cut our teeth on difficult child so the other kids weren't able to pull the wool over our eyes much. [/QUOTE]
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