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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 128045" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Given your difficult child hx of abuse, I'm not the least bit surprised at the behaviors/choices & emotional trauma she is displaying.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Look into a victim's aid society for help with the counseling piece. Is there a university teaching hospital about that can work with you on various testing - generally it's done on scale.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>As to the abuse piece, this is going to take years to unravel; years more to rebuild your difficult children sense of self, her sense of trust. She's learned at an early age the way to "please", for lack of a better word, men is to be provocative, flirtatious. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>As a mother, it's hard to watch. Even harder to turn around. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>With our kt, it started out teaching her that she is a survivor. Everyday, that phrase is brought into conversation at least once - most times many times a day. Mostly through song of some type. Anyone who works with kt plus myself model appropriate non flirtatious interactions with men - that includes provcative dress, dance & poses. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>kt announced to husband & myself just a few weeks back that she had to have sex & it was going to happen soon. husband & I responded as any parent of a 13 y/o. We can't stop you but you darned well better be ready for that choice. And pointed out the possible STDs, baby, loss of education, loss of income to support that baby. Father of baby going to hang around - not likely. He'll be in jail for statatory rape. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Yes, we were very blunt with kt - had to be. Her life was tied into this fantasy.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>I wish you luck - this type of trauma in young one is so very difficult. Many times the professionals try to scoot around the PTSD that results from the trauma when that is the very thing that should be addressed.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>As to insurance - check in with county mental health. There should also be a county victims units somplace that may be able to help you. Many women's vicitm groups out there as well.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Good luck.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 128045, member: 393"] [COLOR=Black][B]Given your difficult child hx of abuse, I'm not the least bit surprised at the behaviors/choices & emotional trauma she is displaying. Look into a victim's aid society for help with the counseling piece. Is there a university teaching hospital about that can work with you on various testing - generally it's done on scale. As to the abuse piece, this is going to take years to unravel; years more to rebuild your difficult children sense of self, her sense of trust. She's learned at an early age the way to "please", for lack of a better word, men is to be provocative, flirtatious. As a mother, it's hard to watch. Even harder to turn around. With our kt, it started out teaching her that she is a survivor. Everyday, that phrase is brought into conversation at least once - most times many times a day. Mostly through song of some type. Anyone who works with kt plus myself model appropriate non flirtatious interactions with men - that includes provcative dress, dance & poses. kt announced to husband & myself just a few weeks back that she had to have sex & it was going to happen soon. husband & I responded as any parent of a 13 y/o. We can't stop you but you darned well better be ready for that choice. And pointed out the possible STDs, baby, loss of education, loss of income to support that baby. Father of baby going to hang around - not likely. He'll be in jail for statatory rape. Yes, we were very blunt with kt - had to be. Her life was tied into this fantasy. I wish you luck - this type of trauma in young one is so very difficult. Many times the professionals try to scoot around the PTSD that results from the trauma when that is the very thing that should be addressed. As to insurance - check in with county mental health. There should also be a county victims units somplace that may be able to help you. Many women's vicitm groups out there as well. Good luck. [/B][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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