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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 701068" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Hello Help Needed,</p><p></p><p>I just want to acknowledge your post on this forum, and welcome you. But I am sorry you are having such a difficult time that brought you here to find us. I usually don’t read on the <u>General Parenting</u> forum, because my children are now adults, but for whatever reason I saw your plea for help. I can tell that you are at a breaking point from burn out and weariness from continuously caring for your young 6-year-old son and your pre-teen 11-year-old. You have come to the right place to share your frustrations and vent and tell your stories here. This forum is a safe place and the folks here understand. You are not alone in dealing with these types of situations. It is really difficult and tiring to raise children non-stop day after day, year after year. (sometimes overwhelming.) And if there are continuing behavior problems, it is even more draining, and can easily bring anyone to tears. We have all been there! You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Just telling your story here on the forum can be a relief ~ to tell someone and ask for help, and not keep it bundled inside. You did the right thing to search for some wisdom to assist you, and to make known your need for help. You have taken an important first step.</p><p></p><p>I raised 4 children. I also have 4 grandchildren, 2 younger ones that I still care for regularly and often (ages 5 and 9). All children are different and require different tactics and strategies, and all seem to have some idiosyncrasies as well their own special valuable traits to make them the unique persons they are. I understand the issues you described with your “<em>little thunder</em>“ and with the back-talking 11-year-old. It makes it even harder to deal with it when you are not like-minded on the matters to be able to share with your wife and feel distance between you, as you described the situation about your wife.</p><p></p><p>At the moment, I will just say that I commend your strength in staying faithful to the tasks at hand and for the courage to reach out for wisdom and guidance on this site. I do not have immediate specific wisdom and guidance to offer at the moment for your situation, other than to encourage you to continue to read others’ threads and posts here on the forum. There is often much we can gain from reading others’ situations that may be similar in some ways to our own. Sometimes it also helps us see that our own situations may not be as unfortunate as someone else, so we see our own blessings in a different light. The information gained here can bring us clarity.</p><p></p><p>Other folks will also be along soon to hopefully give some insight for you on your situation. I don’t know what you have tried already regarding counseling, school resources, community programs,etc for the little one. Much of what you described regarding the 11 year old seems like a normal stage or phase at that age, but that does not make it easier to deal with, I know.</p><p></p><p>I don’t get the sense that you will run away, although I very well know the feeling of wanting to escape. I am thankful that you find some refuge and relief at your workplace for some periods of respite. Hang in there. I have hopes that as you continue with us here and keep posting, and take one day at a time, gaining support, you are going to be alright. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 701068, member: 19617"] Hello Help Needed, I just want to acknowledge your post on this forum, and welcome you. But I am sorry you are having such a difficult time that brought you here to find us. I usually don’t read on the [U]General Parenting[/U] forum, because my children are now adults, but for whatever reason I saw your plea for help. I can tell that you are at a breaking point from burn out and weariness from continuously caring for your young 6-year-old son and your pre-teen 11-year-old. You have come to the right place to share your frustrations and vent and tell your stories here. This forum is a safe place and the folks here understand. You are not alone in dealing with these types of situations. It is really difficult and tiring to raise children non-stop day after day, year after year. (sometimes overwhelming.) And if there are continuing behavior problems, it is even more draining, and can easily bring anyone to tears. We have all been there! You are not alone. Just telling your story here on the forum can be a relief ~ to tell someone and ask for help, and not keep it bundled inside. You did the right thing to search for some wisdom to assist you, and to make known your need for help. You have taken an important first step. I raised 4 children. I also have 4 grandchildren, 2 younger ones that I still care for regularly and often (ages 5 and 9). All children are different and require different tactics and strategies, and all seem to have some idiosyncrasies as well their own special valuable traits to make them the unique persons they are. I understand the issues you described with your “[I]little thunder[/I]“ and with the back-talking 11-year-old. It makes it even harder to deal with it when you are not like-minded on the matters to be able to share with your wife and feel distance between you, as you described the situation about your wife. At the moment, I will just say that I commend your strength in staying faithful to the tasks at hand and for the courage to reach out for wisdom and guidance on this site. I do not have immediate specific wisdom and guidance to offer at the moment for your situation, other than to encourage you to continue to read others’ threads and posts here on the forum. There is often much we can gain from reading others’ situations that may be similar in some ways to our own. Sometimes it also helps us see that our own situations may not be as unfortunate as someone else, so we see our own blessings in a different light. The information gained here can bring us clarity. Other folks will also be along soon to hopefully give some insight for you on your situation. I don’t know what you have tried already regarding counseling, school resources, community programs,etc for the little one. Much of what you described regarding the 11 year old seems like a normal stage or phase at that age, but that does not make it easier to deal with, I know. I don’t get the sense that you will run away, although I very well know the feeling of wanting to escape. I am thankful that you find some refuge and relief at your workplace for some periods of respite. Hang in there. I have hopes that as you continue with us here and keep posting, and take one day at a time, gaining support, you are going to be alright. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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