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Help, my 8 year old is a thief.
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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 61243" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>We have trouble with our difficult child taking things - and I'm sure he really can't help himself. He is VERY impulusive - gets suspended from school all the time because he can't stop himself from getting in arguments and saying mean, mean things to other kids or pushing them.</p><p></p><p>In the past, we have made him pick out his most favorite item and then give it to whoever he stole from. I've taken away all his stuff before and put it in a box, he didn't seem to care. I've made him return the item and apologize, and he didn't seem to care. If I take something from him and give it to the other person, he didn't seem to care. But when he picked his favorite thing and had to give it away himself, I think it really made an impact. May not change his behavior right now but I'm hoping with maturity and with us being consistent all the time with not accepting this behavior, he will learn.</p><p></p><p>I also talk to him about people's perceptions. I asked him if he wants people to think he's a thief and a liar. I ask him if he saw a friend stealing something from the store what would he think of them. What if he saw them doing it, told them he saw it, and they still denied it. I asked them if he would trust them the next time they went to the store or if they would keep an eye on them to see if they stole again. My difficult child gives all the right answers so I know he knows what's right and wrong. I know he wants to do what is right. He just has to learn to stop himself, and with our help, and the right treatment and therapy, we have hope that he will some day.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure you overreacted. If you let her earn stuff back with honesty and not stealing, then maybe that will be a lesson that will stick with her and help her learn the right way to do things eventually.</p><p></p><p>Linda</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 61243, member: 45"] We have trouble with our difficult child taking things - and I'm sure he really can't help himself. He is VERY impulusive - gets suspended from school all the time because he can't stop himself from getting in arguments and saying mean, mean things to other kids or pushing them. In the past, we have made him pick out his most favorite item and then give it to whoever he stole from. I've taken away all his stuff before and put it in a box, he didn't seem to care. I've made him return the item and apologize, and he didn't seem to care. If I take something from him and give it to the other person, he didn't seem to care. But when he picked his favorite thing and had to give it away himself, I think it really made an impact. May not change his behavior right now but I'm hoping with maturity and with us being consistent all the time with not accepting this behavior, he will learn. I also talk to him about people's perceptions. I asked him if he wants people to think he's a thief and a liar. I ask him if he saw a friend stealing something from the store what would he think of them. What if he saw them doing it, told them he saw it, and they still denied it. I asked them if he would trust them the next time they went to the store or if they would keep an eye on them to see if they stole again. My difficult child gives all the right answers so I know he knows what's right and wrong. I know he wants to do what is right. He just has to learn to stop himself, and with our help, and the right treatment and therapy, we have hope that he will some day. I'm not sure you overreacted. If you let her earn stuff back with honesty and not stealing, then maybe that will be a lesson that will stick with her and help her learn the right way to do things eventually. Linda [/QUOTE]
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