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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 278147" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome. I am sorry you are having so many problems. It certainly seems as though you have done your best but based on my experiences I would suggest that it is time for you to give it up. A dysfunctional Mom not only can, usually does, completely alter a child's sense of right and wrong. There is an innate need and desire to attach to a biomom if they have spent early years together. Your husband has too many issues of his own to be able to step up to the plate and fight the battle.</p><p> </p><p>My response is from the heart and based on many years of trying to overcome problems triggered by and perpetuated by a biomom who is not a drug user or an alcoholic...just not an appropriate adult role model. A stepson nearing adulthood would be a problem that I would write off. My take sounds insensitive but really you are young enough to start anew and have a happy, positive life with others who respect and value you.</p><p> </p><p>Others will come along and perhaps they will see it differently. This is a diverse group of individuals. After almost ten years sharing with the CD family there have been fewer than a handful with questionable motives.</p><p>This is "a soft place to land" even when the advice doesn't sound warm and fuzzy. We all care for each other and now you are here we include you as a CD family member who is welcome to post as many times as yousee fit and share your feelings freely. I'm glad you found us. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 278147, member: 35"] Welcome. I am sorry you are having so many problems. It certainly seems as though you have done your best but based on my experiences I would suggest that it is time for you to give it up. A dysfunctional Mom not only can, usually does, completely alter a child's sense of right and wrong. There is an innate need and desire to attach to a biomom if they have spent early years together. Your husband has too many issues of his own to be able to step up to the plate and fight the battle. My response is from the heart and based on many years of trying to overcome problems triggered by and perpetuated by a biomom who is not a drug user or an alcoholic...just not an appropriate adult role model. A stepson nearing adulthood would be a problem that I would write off. My take sounds insensitive but really you are young enough to start anew and have a happy, positive life with others who respect and value you. Others will come along and perhaps they will see it differently. This is a diverse group of individuals. After almost ten years sharing with the CD family there have been fewer than a handful with questionable motives. This is "a soft place to land" even when the advice doesn't sound warm and fuzzy. We all care for each other and now you are here we include you as a CD family member who is welcome to post as many times as yousee fit and share your feelings freely. I'm glad you found us. DDD [/QUOTE]
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