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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 278154" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome to our "soft place". Sounds like you could use a comfy chair to curl up in to enjoy a bit of peace and quiet. Before I tell you my thoughts on reading your post I want to say this: You may not like what I say. I may be totally wrong with it. NOTHING is said to hurt you. And no matter WHAT you choose, you have 110&#37; support.</p><p></p><p>That being said, why are you sticking with the father? It really sounds like he has NO intention of demanding respect from his son, not respect for himself, not respect for the father and not respect of you.</p><p></p><p>At almost 18 there truly is NOTHING you can do for the difficult child (gift from God, or the child who brought you here). You are not his mom or his dad. Unless mom or dad decide to enforce some boundaries this kid has a really tough road ahead. </p><p></p><p>Why do you want a relationship to continue with a man who will not stand up to his own son? Who will not back you in any discipline or rules or whatever? I am NOT saying "Dump the man". You have known them for at least 7 years and have a lot invested in the relationship. I AM saying "Think about what you want in 1 year, 5 years and 10 years down the line. Can you honestly see your relationship with your husband and his child being better? Can you see it filling YOUR needs?</p><p></p><p>Sending lots of gentle hugs, and support for whatever you decide (even if it is just to read posts and think for however long. </p><p></p><p>I DO recommend that YOU attend AlAnon or NarcAnon. The presence of the drugs and alcohol in his life from biomom will end up effecting YOUR life. These groups are both extremely healthy. And they are FREE!</p><p></p><p>If you are going to stay in the relationship, would couples therapy be a good thing?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 278154, member: 1233"] Welcome to our "soft place". Sounds like you could use a comfy chair to curl up in to enjoy a bit of peace and quiet. Before I tell you my thoughts on reading your post I want to say this: You may not like what I say. I may be totally wrong with it. NOTHING is said to hurt you. And no matter WHAT you choose, you have 110% support. That being said, why are you sticking with the father? It really sounds like he has NO intention of demanding respect from his son, not respect for himself, not respect for the father and not respect of you. At almost 18 there truly is NOTHING you can do for the difficult child (gift from God, or the child who brought you here). You are not his mom or his dad. Unless mom or dad decide to enforce some boundaries this kid has a really tough road ahead. Why do you want a relationship to continue with a man who will not stand up to his own son? Who will not back you in any discipline or rules or whatever? I am NOT saying "Dump the man". You have known them for at least 7 years and have a lot invested in the relationship. I AM saying "Think about what you want in 1 year, 5 years and 10 years down the line. Can you honestly see your relationship with your husband and his child being better? Can you see it filling YOUR needs? Sending lots of gentle hugs, and support for whatever you decide (even if it is just to read posts and think for however long. I DO recommend that YOU attend AlAnon or NarcAnon. The presence of the drugs and alcohol in his life from biomom will end up effecting YOUR life. These groups are both extremely healthy. And they are FREE! If you are going to stay in the relationship, would couples therapy be a good thing? [/QUOTE]
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