Hi InsaneCdn,
Until 2 months ago, I refused to believe he had an issue, other than being disobedient.
I took him to 2 Psychiatrists, they both stated, Impulse Control Disorder, some signs of ADHD and possible Bipolar. Last visit 3 wks ago. Trying medications (Tenex). Behavior Modification as recommended by first Dr. isn't helping. I know it takes time, but the school won't wait. Was told to tell the school ODD to buy some time.
Divorced when he was 6 mos. Lives with me and stepfather. He's been there since his 1st b-day. Father re-married same year. He has 3 children (wife's) he adopted plus 2 of their own. They live 1 mile from us. He see them weekly. Alot of sibling rivalry, kids are the same ages. Father has NO paternal feelings for my son.
History: Behavior noticed around 4yrs, stubborn, fits of rage, bored at school. Worked a grade level ahead. I thought it was still the terrible two's. As he got older his behavior became worse. In the past year, he's chased his sitter with a knife, caught the kitchen on fire and threw a metal broomstick into is brothers calf. Brother (16) moved in with his father shortly after. He is described as a disruptive class clown at school, wanting everyone's attention. Complete disregard for classroom rules.
Complete disrespect for adults, other than his father. From him he craves approval. But fears him as well. Father has anger management issues that he has been treated for in the past. Older brother also has anger management issues, in counseling. Paternal Grandmother, swears he is just like his father.
I really feel like I'm guessing where he is concerned. How much do I tell the school? What assistance can I ask for from the teachers? Can I keep him from being expelled? Can he remain in his current classes?