I need help with my SS who is 9 years old. My husband and I got full custody of my SS 3years ago and we were extremely happy we anticipated it would be hard but it was a challenge we were both willing to take. My so mom is very young and immature and as a result her parents practically raised him until he was 5yrs old when we got custody of him.
My step son has cerebral palsy he couldnt walk until 5yrs old after surgery but as far as we were told by doctors that are the only way it affected him. When he moved in with us everything was a battle. Eating, routine getting himself dressed his favorite phase was grandma does this for me. The routine helped and he learned to do things for himself however he becomes externally stubborn, if he didnt want to do homework instead of trying he would just cry for hours and houses all night long. If he didnt want to go to bed he would scream. I fell pregnant and we hoped having another child would help with his behavior being the big brother and getting to help and show his little brother how to do things. We are 3 yrs. down the line he is ok once in a routine but if anything is slightly different he will have full crying break downs. As we are military we have just moved and I am writing this after a rather stressful day and at my wits end. He didnt want to do homework so he hit screamed and said you cannot make me. I have told him he will do nothing else until his work is done and he does not care. He didnt like what was for dinner so he refused to eat and then screams that his stomach is in pain unless I give him what he wants. I am at my wits end I love my stepson dearly but it is now effecting my 2year old when my SS is crying my youngest gets upset and mimics his behavior. My SS often tells me you cannot make me do that, and growls at me. When he comes back from his grandmas and wont eat my food he pretends to gag.
Just want to add a few other details to some of his behavior that I have noticed. He often uses a baby voice when he doesnt want to do something; his behavior is worse after talking and spending time with his grandma. (to the point my husband doesnt want him going there) he needs constant reassurance I will tell him to put his shoes on he has to ask 10 times do you need me to tie my laces, I will tell him to get dressed and he will ask do I need underwear. He will ask a question every minute and without rules he seems lost and confused and it worries me. He cries over everything, if he doesnt get the breakfast he wanted, if he has to go to bed a little early. He wont do time out and will kick and scream when I tell him to go calm, any advice would be great as I have no clue what else to do.
My step son has cerebral palsy he couldnt walk until 5yrs old after surgery but as far as we were told by doctors that are the only way it affected him. When he moved in with us everything was a battle. Eating, routine getting himself dressed his favorite phase was grandma does this for me. The routine helped and he learned to do things for himself however he becomes externally stubborn, if he didnt want to do homework instead of trying he would just cry for hours and houses all night long. If he didnt want to go to bed he would scream. I fell pregnant and we hoped having another child would help with his behavior being the big brother and getting to help and show his little brother how to do things. We are 3 yrs. down the line he is ok once in a routine but if anything is slightly different he will have full crying break downs. As we are military we have just moved and I am writing this after a rather stressful day and at my wits end. He didnt want to do homework so he hit screamed and said you cannot make me. I have told him he will do nothing else until his work is done and he does not care. He didnt like what was for dinner so he refused to eat and then screams that his stomach is in pain unless I give him what he wants. I am at my wits end I love my stepson dearly but it is now effecting my 2year old when my SS is crying my youngest gets upset and mimics his behavior. My SS often tells me you cannot make me do that, and growls at me. When he comes back from his grandmas and wont eat my food he pretends to gag.
Just want to add a few other details to some of his behavior that I have noticed. He often uses a baby voice when he doesnt want to do something; his behavior is worse after talking and spending time with his grandma. (to the point my husband doesnt want him going there) he needs constant reassurance I will tell him to put his shoes on he has to ask 10 times do you need me to tie my laces, I will tell him to get dressed and he will ask do I need underwear. He will ask a question every minute and without rules he seems lost and confused and it worries me. He cries over everything, if he doesnt get the breakfast he wanted, if he has to go to bed a little early. He wont do time out and will kick and scream when I tell him to go calm, any advice would be great as I have no clue what else to do.
