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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 138982" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>As many of you know, my father passed away recently. He and my mother were vacationing when it happened and, though there will be no funeral, there will be a memorial service near where they were staying. My mother will settle things with the house up North, and there will be another memorial service this summer with and for family and friends there.</p><p></p><p>difficult child feels way bad that we are not somehow managing to get him to the first memorial service.</p><p></p><p>I am certain he will feel the same about the second service ~but for that one, there is time. For that one, I hope to tell difficult child that he has until June to get himself in order and if he has done that, we will help.</p><p></p><p>Which we have always told him ~ but the truth is, if difficult child were doing the things every able bodied male does without having to have his parents prod him to do it, difficult child would not require our help.</p><p></p><p>By help, I mean $, license, and vehicle.</p><p></p><p>So that's the first question.</p><p></p><p>How in the world can I look at myself in the mirror if, knowing difficult child cannot pay his own way, I don't pay difficult child's travel and lodging expenses so that he can attend his grandfather's memorial? </p><p></p><p>I know I am going to feel the same way (or worse) when it is time for the second memorial.</p><p></p><p>It isn't even a question of renting a car and paying for his hotel room, because difficult child refuses to pay the fine to have his license reinstated and so, could not drive a rental car there even is we did pay for one.</p><p></p><p>Everything about this is so ugly.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 138982, member: 1721"] As many of you know, my father passed away recently. He and my mother were vacationing when it happened and, though there will be no funeral, there will be a memorial service near where they were staying. My mother will settle things with the house up North, and there will be another memorial service this summer with and for family and friends there. difficult child feels way bad that we are not somehow managing to get him to the first memorial service. I am certain he will feel the same about the second service ~but for that one, there is time. For that one, I hope to tell difficult child that he has until June to get himself in order and if he has done that, we will help. Which we have always told him ~ but the truth is, if difficult child were doing the things every able bodied male does without having to have his parents prod him to do it, difficult child would not require our help. By help, I mean $, license, and vehicle. So that's the first question. How in the world can I look at myself in the mirror if, knowing difficult child cannot pay his own way, I don't pay difficult child's travel and lodging expenses so that he can attend his grandfather's memorial? I know I am going to feel the same way (or worse) when it is time for the second memorial. It isn't even a question of renting a car and paying for his hotel room, because difficult child refuses to pay the fine to have his license reinstated and so, could not drive a rental car there even is we did pay for one. Everything about this is so ugly. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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