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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 156135" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Vic, </p><p></p><p>You don't owe anyone reason one. I think what Janet said is very true. I often wonder where Aly WOULD be had you not taken her. I know you love her - she's adorable. I love Dude too, but I don't like him a LOT of the time and had it not been for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I don't know if I would be sitting here writing to you OR in a nut house playing invisible juice harp on my lips waiting on applesauce and pills. The level of dysfunction in some of our kids is hard at times for others to grasp. So when we say things in a "safe" room - we're venting and someone else see's it and interprets it differently. To walk a mile in my shoes is to understand that you couldn't walk in my shoes and I couldn't walk in yours. Besides I think you're feet are probably tiny and NOW you only have ONE shoe and I need two. </p><p></p><p>My suggestion in another laundry post wasn't an invitation for judgment, I should have taken it to PM. Well meaning advice was given in love - not judgment. I've known you here for years and we've always supported each other. I know that hasn't changed and for it I am thankful. I just know that had it been me speaking about Dude - I could have counted on you to do the same and point out that I was on a roll. Not hard to get on one either with our kids. </p><p></p><p>You're right - there is so much more going on and has been going on and stuff that for YEARS has been going on that you maybe once in a while said "help" - but after a while of enduring abuse in an abusive situation from an abusive person regardless of WHO they are or HOW old they are or WHAT has happened to them in life - SOMETIMES the ONLY thing you can do is leave and work on things from a distance. If that wasn't a real life situation Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s would be obsolete. Aly is with her Dad, she sees you, you are learning to take one day at a time now because you are ABLE to and I think THAT is much better plans than staying in a situation that isn't good for you, husband, ALY, H or anyone. Being away gives you time to miss someone and see things from a different vantage point that may help later on. </p><p></p><p>I know you love her, I know you love H - I know you love husband. You don't have to explain that, and you don't have to word your posts differently or anything - you HAVE the safety of coming here, posting your needs, or funnies, or cries, or wants or suggestions - just like everyone else. </p><p>You know that picture we were talking about? Maybe you should post it sometime and show the rest of the board all the children you raised. </p><p></p><p>and......besides - you made me barf with your leg snap sounds. I need to know if you get better or walk like Festus from that show with Marshall Dillon and miss Kitty......they way my memory is going I'll be luck to wish old what's his name an 18th birthday this - whenever he was born. lol </p><p></p><p>You're family - you can't do a road trip - I will find you. And with a broken leg that won't be hard - you'll leave a skid mark in the sand......like the mummy. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 156135, member: 4964"] Vic, You don't owe anyone reason one. I think what Janet said is very true. I often wonder where Aly WOULD be had you not taken her. I know you love her - she's adorable. I love Dude too, but I don't like him a LOT of the time and had it not been for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I don't know if I would be sitting here writing to you OR in a nut house playing invisible juice harp on my lips waiting on applesauce and pills. The level of dysfunction in some of our kids is hard at times for others to grasp. So when we say things in a "safe" room - we're venting and someone else see's it and interprets it differently. To walk a mile in my shoes is to understand that you couldn't walk in my shoes and I couldn't walk in yours. Besides I think you're feet are probably tiny and NOW you only have ONE shoe and I need two. My suggestion in another laundry post wasn't an invitation for judgment, I should have taken it to PM. Well meaning advice was given in love - not judgment. I've known you here for years and we've always supported each other. I know that hasn't changed and for it I am thankful. I just know that had it been me speaking about Dude - I could have counted on you to do the same and point out that I was on a roll. Not hard to get on one either with our kids. You're right - there is so much more going on and has been going on and stuff that for YEARS has been going on that you maybe once in a while said "help" - but after a while of enduring abuse in an abusive situation from an abusive person regardless of WHO they are or HOW old they are or WHAT has happened to them in life - SOMETIMES the ONLY thing you can do is leave and work on things from a distance. If that wasn't a real life situation Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s would be obsolete. Aly is with her Dad, she sees you, you are learning to take one day at a time now because you are ABLE to and I think THAT is much better plans than staying in a situation that isn't good for you, husband, ALY, H or anyone. Being away gives you time to miss someone and see things from a different vantage point that may help later on. I know you love her, I know you love H - I know you love husband. You don't have to explain that, and you don't have to word your posts differently or anything - you HAVE the safety of coming here, posting your needs, or funnies, or cries, or wants or suggestions - just like everyone else. You know that picture we were talking about? Maybe you should post it sometime and show the rest of the board all the children you raised. and......besides - you made me barf with your leg snap sounds. I need to know if you get better or walk like Festus from that show with Marshall Dillon and miss Kitty......they way my memory is going I'll be luck to wish old what's his name an 18th birthday this - whenever he was born. lol You're family - you can't do a road trip - I will find you. And with a broken leg that won't be hard - you'll leave a skid mark in the sand......like the mummy. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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