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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 229003" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well darn Fran, I was hoping you'd have one heck of a solution up your sleeve. With yours being older, and as you said with many of the same issues. You and your difficult child have done alot of guidance with me and Travis. (and kept me from strangling the boy more than once. lol)</p><p> </p><p>Once I get the mess cleared out........I have to do daily inspection to keep it that way. He can only maintain on his own for a few days. Like you said, he doesn't make the connection that one sock on the floor he's walking over leads to two....and so on.</p><p> </p><p>I was hoping to supervise clean up this weekend. But now that I'm sick as a dog, not sure if it'll happen. </p><p> </p><p>ctmom I realize by my 2nd post that I'd contradicted myself. Didn't quite mean it that way. I meant that if the situation becomes too hazardous and I can't get him to comply I will have to evict him. I will have no choice. The biggest problem is that I can't simply place him on the street. Not won't, but can't. He doesn't have the level of function to survive at all on the street alone. It would be like tossing a small child out. It's difficult to explain. Mostly because it many areas he does do fairly ok with supervision. Yet in important areas he barely functions at all and only with close surpervision. If I was absolutely forced to evict, I'd have to find someone for him to go like my mothers or easy child's or some facility of supervised living.</p><p> </p><p>But to just toss him out.......no, I have to admit, I can't do that. I know that difficult children often do well in that situation. However Travis' isn't just behavior related, but physical disabilities. </p><p> </p><p>He isn't defiant or out of control. If I could get him to grasp the danger of smoking in his room, he'd most likely stop without arguement. The trouble I'm having is getting him to grasp that it is dangerous, not only to him but to everyone else in the house.</p><p> </p><p>That's why I thought maybe this would be a good topic to discuss. I know Travis isn't the only difficult child on the board with physical and brain related disabilities complicating parenting even further than gfgdom. </p><p> </p><p>While I push for him to be all that he is capable of being, I'm also faced with the reality of his limitations. Which I've been forced to accept.</p><p> </p><p>Most likely if he was defiant or out of control it would spark a whole new direction of discussion. Such as what the heck you do with a physically disabled adult child who is out of control? (cuz I'm not so sure what I'd do then either)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 229003, member: 84"] Well darn Fran, I was hoping you'd have one heck of a solution up your sleeve. With yours being older, and as you said with many of the same issues. You and your difficult child have done alot of guidance with me and Travis. (and kept me from strangling the boy more than once. lol) Once I get the mess cleared out........I have to do daily inspection to keep it that way. He can only maintain on his own for a few days. Like you said, he doesn't make the connection that one sock on the floor he's walking over leads to two....and so on. I was hoping to supervise clean up this weekend. But now that I'm sick as a dog, not sure if it'll happen. ctmom I realize by my 2nd post that I'd contradicted myself. Didn't quite mean it that way. I meant that if the situation becomes too hazardous and I can't get him to comply I will have to evict him. I will have no choice. The biggest problem is that I can't simply place him on the street. Not won't, but can't. He doesn't have the level of function to survive at all on the street alone. It would be like tossing a small child out. It's difficult to explain. Mostly because it many areas he does do fairly ok with supervision. Yet in important areas he barely functions at all and only with close surpervision. If I was absolutely forced to evict, I'd have to find someone for him to go like my mothers or easy child's or some facility of supervised living. But to just toss him out.......no, I have to admit, I can't do that. I know that difficult children often do well in that situation. However Travis' isn't just behavior related, but physical disabilities. He isn't defiant or out of control. If I could get him to grasp the danger of smoking in his room, he'd most likely stop without arguement. The trouble I'm having is getting him to grasp that it is dangerous, not only to him but to everyone else in the house. That's why I thought maybe this would be a good topic to discuss. I know Travis isn't the only difficult child on the board with physical and brain related disabilities complicating parenting even further than gfgdom. While I push for him to be all that he is capable of being, I'm also faced with the reality of his limitations. Which I've been forced to accept. Most likely if he was defiant or out of control it would spark a whole new direction of discussion. Such as what the heck you do with a physically disabled adult child who is out of control? (cuz I'm not so sure what I'd do then either) [/QUOTE]
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