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He's been in touch and I don't know what to do
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 636062" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I agree with Toughlovin...gosh it seems I am saying that a lot these days...lol. Keep the lines of communication open. I read something somewhere online that said (these are my words) keeping up communication with a parent or parents is one of the strongest resources an addict has to get clean. I believe that. I would imagine that if MY parents had ever told me that they would no longer speak to me at all then I would have been so hurt that I dont know what I would have done. I dont think it would have forced me to change my ways. My dad did detach as far as not condoning my activities and not giving me money but he always spoke to me. I always knew he loved me. I always knew I could call him. I well knew I couldnt live with him ever again. </p><p></p><p>Last night my son called me expecting me to solve his problem. I wasnt going to do it. I actually didnt have the ability to do it and if he really needed to have it solved, his girlfriend was there and could have taken him to the hospital easier than I could have. Let her...he isnt my little boy anymore. Or even he could have called the ambulance to get to the hospital and I would have most likely gone to get him and take him home but I wasnt going to be manipulated into going over and petting him like a baby. He is too old for that. I did tell him he can go to the dr today with me if he wants...so far he hasnt gotten back to me on that. I have set boundaries. Mine are more fluid than some folks on here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 636062, member: 1514"] I agree with Toughlovin...gosh it seems I am saying that a lot these days...lol. Keep the lines of communication open. I read something somewhere online that said (these are my words) keeping up communication with a parent or parents is one of the strongest resources an addict has to get clean. I believe that. I would imagine that if MY parents had ever told me that they would no longer speak to me at all then I would have been so hurt that I dont know what I would have done. I dont think it would have forced me to change my ways. My dad did detach as far as not condoning my activities and not giving me money but he always spoke to me. I always knew he loved me. I always knew I could call him. I well knew I couldnt live with him ever again. Last night my son called me expecting me to solve his problem. I wasnt going to do it. I actually didnt have the ability to do it and if he really needed to have it solved, his girlfriend was there and could have taken him to the hospital easier than I could have. Let her...he isnt my little boy anymore. Or even he could have called the ambulance to get to the hospital and I would have most likely gone to get him and take him home but I wasnt going to be manipulated into going over and petting him like a baby. He is too old for that. I did tell him he can go to the dr today with me if he wants...so far he hasnt gotten back to me on that. I have set boundaries. Mine are more fluid than some folks on here. [/QUOTE]
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