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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 439140" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi and welcome to the board <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>I hope you don't take this wrong, but I think you all need to get into family therapy so that you better understand how to handle your child when he is difficult. Both saying threatening, scary things to him and bruising him (which can land husband in jail and is abusive) are NOT NOT NOT the way to deal with a child whose disabilities may not even been fully diagnosed yet. in my opinion you need to get a professional involved for the entire family. You seem to be in the mourning stages of realizing your child is differently wired and a therapist could help you with THAT too. I STRONGLY urge this because both of you need to learn how to keep cool heads and to walk away. It's not easy. A lot of us get help. in my opinion it is not healthy to try to hide him from your family. He is who he is and not a secret, although I understand that some families are not exactly supportive!</p><p></p><p>Also, I am curious as to who diagnosed your child. If he has not seen a neuropsychologist, I strongly urge you to also take him to see one. All of his many diagnoses put together MAY equal Asperger's Syndrome. These kids have poor social skills, very low frustration levels, poor ability to communicate (although their vocabulary is usually quite advanced), obsessive behaviors and narrow interests. They often have trouble amusing themselves unless they have a prop such as the television or videogames or computers and they may REALLY throw a fit if they are not allowed to use them. Now I am not saying he has this, but he sure sounds like he could be on the spectrum. A neuropsychologist is the best person to determine what is going on with him. ODD is not a very useful diagnosis. Probably all of our kids qualify for that. The question is...WHY is he so defiant?</p><p></p><p>A few questions: I am wondering if you know if his birthparents (especially Mom) drank or used any drugs during pregnancy, even prescription drugs. And also, are there any psychiatric or neurological problems on either side of this child's family tree? Even well off, seemingly "good" families can have issues and sometimes the kids inherit their problems even if they don't live with them. I have four adopted kids, one biological.</p><p></p><p>I think, with the blow up you just had, this is a great time to start over, call a therapist to get help for everybody (even if it's at your local Mental Health Center) and re-evaluate your son's diagnoses. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us and hope we can help you. I hope I did not come across as harsh (as I sometimes can). I did not mean to be harsh. I am trying to give you some ideas and you can take any you like and leave the rest <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 439140, member: 1550"] Hi and welcome to the board :) I hope you don't take this wrong, but I think you all need to get into family therapy so that you better understand how to handle your child when he is difficult. Both saying threatening, scary things to him and bruising him (which can land husband in jail and is abusive) are NOT NOT NOT the way to deal with a child whose disabilities may not even been fully diagnosed yet. in my opinion you need to get a professional involved for the entire family. You seem to be in the mourning stages of realizing your child is differently wired and a therapist could help you with THAT too. I STRONGLY urge this because both of you need to learn how to keep cool heads and to walk away. It's not easy. A lot of us get help. in my opinion it is not healthy to try to hide him from your family. He is who he is and not a secret, although I understand that some families are not exactly supportive! Also, I am curious as to who diagnosed your child. If he has not seen a neuropsychologist, I strongly urge you to also take him to see one. All of his many diagnoses put together MAY equal Asperger's Syndrome. These kids have poor social skills, very low frustration levels, poor ability to communicate (although their vocabulary is usually quite advanced), obsessive behaviors and narrow interests. They often have trouble amusing themselves unless they have a prop such as the television or videogames or computers and they may REALLY throw a fit if they are not allowed to use them. Now I am not saying he has this, but he sure sounds like he could be on the spectrum. A neuropsychologist is the best person to determine what is going on with him. ODD is not a very useful diagnosis. Probably all of our kids qualify for that. The question is...WHY is he so defiant? A few questions: I am wondering if you know if his birthparents (especially Mom) drank or used any drugs during pregnancy, even prescription drugs. And also, are there any psychiatric or neurological problems on either side of this child's family tree? Even well off, seemingly "good" families can have issues and sometimes the kids inherit their problems even if they don't live with them. I have four adopted kids, one biological. I think, with the blow up you just had, this is a great time to start over, call a therapist to get help for everybody (even if it's at your local Mental Health Center) and re-evaluate your son's diagnoses. I'm glad you found us and hope we can help you. I hope I did not come across as harsh (as I sometimes can). I did not mean to be harsh. I am trying to give you some ideas and you can take any you like and leave the rest :) [/QUOTE]
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