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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 387645" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Your 7 year old reminds me a lot of my own difficult child (now 16) when he was 9 or so. If you are having trouble with discipline at such a young age your intuition that something else may be going on could be well founded. If you have been firm, fair and consistant most kids will respond. My difficult child never responded to anything whether it be a punishment or even a reward based sytem, he just never tried to earn rewards. *sigh*</p><p> </p><p>It is possible that the 3 year old picks up on some behaviors from the older sibling. Of course it is also possible he has his own mixed bag of "tricks".</p><p> </p><p>Not the easiest kids to parent I am sure, were all here for various reasons. Just be glad you are starting out so early. Although my own difficult child may have always needed some extra nudges I know in hindsight so much of it would have gone better had we gotten answers and help back when he was 9 and started acting out in small ways. Even though you sound worn out you have a lot of childhood left to get these two sorted out as best as possible. In my case I have a sometimes wonderful, sometimes beastly teen who will be an adult (and beyond my help) very soon. I wish I wish I wish I had the years left that you do!! (and he makes me crazy too...) </p><p> </p><p>Things will get better for you, it just takes time.</p><p> </p><p>Knowing if they have certain diagnosis will help everyone offer support and suggestions. If you do not have a good solid diagnosis or one that isn't working well most here will suggest getting a neuropsychologist evaluation. It is a big test, it is a big wait to get usually and it isn't cheap if you have bad insurance. (some agencies help if you know who to ask) HOWEVER, it is a treasure trove of in depth information about your kids, it explains the "why" of their behavior. It isn't a magic pill, it won't solve everything but until you know exactly where you are coming from it's hard to know where to go.</p><p> </p><p>Welcome to the group. Everyone here is very nice and a great help. They have supported me and saved my sanity plenty of times. It's nice to find people who get what we are going through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 387645, member: 8617"] Your 7 year old reminds me a lot of my own difficult child (now 16) when he was 9 or so. If you are having trouble with discipline at such a young age your intuition that something else may be going on could be well founded. If you have been firm, fair and consistant most kids will respond. My difficult child never responded to anything whether it be a punishment or even a reward based sytem, he just never tried to earn rewards. *sigh* It is possible that the 3 year old picks up on some behaviors from the older sibling. Of course it is also possible he has his own mixed bag of "tricks". Not the easiest kids to parent I am sure, were all here for various reasons. Just be glad you are starting out so early. Although my own difficult child may have always needed some extra nudges I know in hindsight so much of it would have gone better had we gotten answers and help back when he was 9 and started acting out in small ways. Even though you sound worn out you have a lot of childhood left to get these two sorted out as best as possible. In my case I have a sometimes wonderful, sometimes beastly teen who will be an adult (and beyond my help) very soon. I wish I wish I wish I had the years left that you do!! (and he makes me crazy too...) Things will get better for you, it just takes time. Knowing if they have certain diagnosis will help everyone offer support and suggestions. If you do not have a good solid diagnosis or one that isn't working well most here will suggest getting a neuropsychologist evaluation. It is a big test, it is a big wait to get usually and it isn't cheap if you have bad insurance. (some agencies help if you know who to ask) HOWEVER, it is a treasure trove of in depth information about your kids, it explains the "why" of their behavior. It isn't a magic pill, it won't solve everything but until you know exactly where you are coming from it's hard to know where to go. Welcome to the group. Everyone here is very nice and a great help. They have supported me and saved my sanity plenty of times. It's nice to find people who get what we are going through. [/QUOTE]
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