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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 240499" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Oh, by the way, his dad cannot, absolutely cannot say one thing and do another. If your son is Aspie, he takes everything literally. </p><p>He will defintely have a meltdown.</p><p>Assuming that his dad isn't going to change, you've got to train your son to take everything his dad says with-a grain of salt. Sit him down and talk to him and explain that his dad is unpredictable. Explain that most people are disappointed in his dad because he doesn't follow through.</p><p>The downside to this (or maybe a plus side <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ) is that your son will then blurt out all of that to his dad. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Personally, I'd put my son first and do whatever it takes.</p><p> </p><p>When you speak to him, be very aware that you, too, must be careful about absolutes and promises. I always tell my son, "I am not making any promises today." It takes me off the hook. Sometimes I'll tell him we're going to the store, and then I'll find what I'm looking for in the fridge, so I'll skip the shopping. Next thing I know, he's screaming, "LIAR!"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 240499, member: 3419"] Oh, by the way, his dad cannot, absolutely cannot say one thing and do another. If your son is Aspie, he takes everything literally. He will defintely have a meltdown. Assuming that his dad isn't going to change, you've got to train your son to take everything his dad says with-a grain of salt. Sit him down and talk to him and explain that his dad is unpredictable. Explain that most people are disappointed in his dad because he doesn't follow through. The downside to this (or maybe a plus side ;) ) is that your son will then blurt out all of that to his dad. :( Personally, I'd put my son first and do whatever it takes. When you speak to him, be very aware that you, too, must be careful about absolutes and promises. I always tell my son, "I am not making any promises today." It takes me off the hook. Sometimes I'll tell him we're going to the store, and then I'll find what I'm looking for in the fridge, so I'll skip the shopping. Next thing I know, he's screaming, "LIAR!" [/QUOTE]
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