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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 467758" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know that right now you are in a real state of PTSD, depression and also have a lot of fight or flight going on with your body with the abuse from ex, etc.... With so many small children, esp a 3 mo old, post partum depression is likely a big part of everything.</p><p></p><p>You have NOT NOT NOT lost the right to ever homeschool your children. Frankly, your kids will be in school for a LOT of years to come. So you have PLENTY of time to homeschool them. The school situation isn't ideal, and that is hard. But they will cope. I hope your mother in law is supportive because you need help and NOT another person to care for, in my opinion. </p><p></p><p>It is no wonder that you feel overwhelmed and like you are losing your dream. I promise that you are not. husband and I evaluate our kids' school placement at least each semester. Wiz was homeschooled for 2 years, Jess for 5 very different years. thank you hasn't been, though he sure was around when the others were homeschooling either because he was so little or was home on weekends, summer, etc......</p><p></p><p>The first year I homeschooled Wiz I really thought I was a flop and the other moms would tell me so in no uncertain terms. Esp with all the behavior problems and violence that Wiz had. I was SHOCKED. I got a LOT of support for having pulled Wiz out and for sepnding at least 2/3 of each week at the Children's hospital for therapy and doctor appts for Wiz. They thought it was great that we were putting academics on the back burner and working on turning him into a person that could cope with the world with-o being violent. </p><p></p><p>I NEVER expected that. I sure didn't get it from my own parents!</p><p></p><p>I also didn't expect them to support me having Jess in kindergarten at the same time. She went to school and he was homeschooled - it gave her time with other kids and gave him more time where I could focus solely on him or mostly on him. </p><p></p><p>Just because homeschooling is the right answer NOW does NOT mean it won't be the right answer in 6 mos or a year or three years. Homeschooling is NOT all or nothing. You can do it some years and not others, or for some kids and not the others - as long as it is what is right for YOUR family. </p><p></p><p>PLEASE be gentle with yourself. Your body is barely over giving birth, you are also dealing with about the most horrific thing a parent can face - knowing one of your chldren must go to a situation where he won't be safe over and over. </p><p></p><p>If you give yourself time to heal physically, emotionally and every other way until you feel more able to cope, then you will be able to tackle homeschooling at that time. I promise.</p><p></p><p>You also might want to read up on unschooling. I know it sounds "hippy dippy" and all that, but honestly? I know several kids who were raised that way, with very minimal tv or screen anything, and the oldest went to an Ivy league school on full academic scholarship, the middle went to a private college that was very specialized on early admission on scholarship and the others all got the scholarships or into the colleges or trade or arts schools they wanted into. They were not all from the same family, just members of the homeschooling co-op we were part of.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry that your dream is out of your grasp right now, and that you feel so bad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 467758, member: 1233"] I know that right now you are in a real state of PTSD, depression and also have a lot of fight or flight going on with your body with the abuse from ex, etc.... With so many small children, esp a 3 mo old, post partum depression is likely a big part of everything. You have NOT NOT NOT lost the right to ever homeschool your children. Frankly, your kids will be in school for a LOT of years to come. So you have PLENTY of time to homeschool them. The school situation isn't ideal, and that is hard. But they will cope. I hope your mother in law is supportive because you need help and NOT another person to care for, in my opinion. It is no wonder that you feel overwhelmed and like you are losing your dream. I promise that you are not. husband and I evaluate our kids' school placement at least each semester. Wiz was homeschooled for 2 years, Jess for 5 very different years. thank you hasn't been, though he sure was around when the others were homeschooling either because he was so little or was home on weekends, summer, etc...... The first year I homeschooled Wiz I really thought I was a flop and the other moms would tell me so in no uncertain terms. Esp with all the behavior problems and violence that Wiz had. I was SHOCKED. I got a LOT of support for having pulled Wiz out and for sepnding at least 2/3 of each week at the Children's hospital for therapy and doctor appts for Wiz. They thought it was great that we were putting academics on the back burner and working on turning him into a person that could cope with the world with-o being violent. I NEVER expected that. I sure didn't get it from my own parents! I also didn't expect them to support me having Jess in kindergarten at the same time. She went to school and he was homeschooled - it gave her time with other kids and gave him more time where I could focus solely on him or mostly on him. Just because homeschooling is the right answer NOW does NOT mean it won't be the right answer in 6 mos or a year or three years. Homeschooling is NOT all or nothing. You can do it some years and not others, or for some kids and not the others - as long as it is what is right for YOUR family. PLEASE be gentle with yourself. Your body is barely over giving birth, you are also dealing with about the most horrific thing a parent can face - knowing one of your chldren must go to a situation where he won't be safe over and over. If you give yourself time to heal physically, emotionally and every other way until you feel more able to cope, then you will be able to tackle homeschooling at that time. I promise. You also might want to read up on unschooling. I know it sounds "hippy dippy" and all that, but honestly? I know several kids who were raised that way, with very minimal tv or screen anything, and the oldest went to an Ivy league school on full academic scholarship, the middle went to a private college that was very specialized on early admission on scholarship and the others all got the scholarships or into the colleges or trade or arts schools they wanted into. They were not all from the same family, just members of the homeschooling co-op we were part of. I am very sorry that your dream is out of your grasp right now, and that you feel so bad. [/QUOTE]
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