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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 435293" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>DF, In my experience, boundaries and detatchment is what I find I need for ME. I find I must look at what are my responsibities and do those to the best of my ability.Examples include what I could honestly afford to pay for food. Keeping her in school (online classes) was huge for me so I made sure she was doing a bit each day. medication adherence for her has also been huge. My difficult child has not lived at home since she was 15 and I found she wanted the perks of a loving devoted family without following the rules. I had to get very clear and still do about my time and money boundaries. She finds other enablers including dad and brother but I am taking care of myself a lot better. I am currently pretty exhausted and need to keep implementing those self-care boundaries. They include times I am available on the phone, I am very clear about money boundaries, and what I can do, like give rides. </p><p> My daughter is day 26 clean and sober (drug test this Friday). She has been working 8 days now. She is finshing up high school. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I need to honor that. I no longer try to expalin to others including t-docs but look for people that can validate and support me and my limits. </p><p> Helps have been Al-anon, FA (online), CABF (online), Nami, and my church (for general faith support: I do not share details). I have a t-doctor I talk to once a month that is for me. She has been with our family for 3 years. I try to take really good care of myself, get enough rest, get chiro adjustments, and massages and have time for myself. Compassion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 435293, member: 6393"] DF, In my experience, boundaries and detatchment is what I find I need for ME. I find I must look at what are my responsibities and do those to the best of my ability.Examples include what I could honestly afford to pay for food. Keeping her in school (online classes) was huge for me so I made sure she was doing a bit each day. medication adherence for her has also been huge. My difficult child has not lived at home since she was 15 and I found she wanted the perks of a loving devoted family without following the rules. I had to get very clear and still do about my time and money boundaries. She finds other enablers including dad and brother but I am taking care of myself a lot better. I am currently pretty exhausted and need to keep implementing those self-care boundaries. They include times I am available on the phone, I am very clear about money boundaries, and what I can do, like give rides. My daughter is day 26 clean and sober (drug test this Friday). She has been working 8 days now. She is finshing up high school. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I need to honor that. I no longer try to expalin to others including t-docs but look for people that can validate and support me and my limits. Helps have been Al-anon, FA (online), CABF (online), Nami, and my church (for general faith support: I do not share details). I have a t-doctor I talk to once a month that is for me. She has been with our family for 3 years. I try to take really good care of myself, get enough rest, get chiro adjustments, and massages and have time for myself. Compassion [/QUOTE]
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