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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 159388" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Hon, it's not "being in love with a dead man". It's grieving what you had together. It's NORMAL for you to feel the way you do about holidays and the like.</p><p></p><p>My husband died, granted not murdered but rather after a long and painful illness, the day before my b-day and 5 days before our 20th wedding anniversary. We had been together for 25 years!</p><p></p><p>I do wonder though, given that you are already in another relationship, if perhaps you "got on with life" too soon?</p><p></p><p>Grieving is WORK, and d*mned hard work at that. I STILL miss my husband and what we had together and it'll be six years in July.</p><p></p><p>There's a thing called "skin hunger" that often hits very early in grief where you feel like you will die for the need of a touch, of simply being touched and held.</p><p></p><p>It is very easy to mistake this for the need to be in another relationship and to make life altering decisions based on this feeling.</p><p></p><p>I do very strongly recommend that you check into local grief support groups. You can google Hospice for your area and that will bring up contact information for local Hospice groups. </p><p></p><p>Nearly all Hospice groups have grief support info available.</p><p></p><p>If you PM me; I'll still be happy to send you the info for the online support group that I still, after so many years, am a member of.</p><p></p><p>hth,</p><p></p><p>toK</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 159388, member: 1963"] Hon, it's not "being in love with a dead man". It's grieving what you had together. It's NORMAL for you to feel the way you do about holidays and the like. My husband died, granted not murdered but rather after a long and painful illness, the day before my b-day and 5 days before our 20th wedding anniversary. We had been together for 25 years! I do wonder though, given that you are already in another relationship, if perhaps you "got on with life" too soon? Grieving is WORK, and d*mned hard work at that. I STILL miss my husband and what we had together and it'll be six years in July. There's a thing called "skin hunger" that often hits very early in grief where you feel like you will die for the need of a touch, of simply being touched and held. It is very easy to mistake this for the need to be in another relationship and to make life altering decisions based on this feeling. I do very strongly recommend that you check into local grief support groups. You can google Hospice for your area and that will bring up contact information for local Hospice groups. Nearly all Hospice groups have grief support info available. If you PM me; I'll still be happy to send you the info for the online support group that I still, after so many years, am a member of. hth, toK [/QUOTE]
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