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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 172682" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna"><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /> Oops, I am a hugger. I mean, I don't hug strangers or [most] people I've just met and I certainly don't throw out "I love you's" to anyone outside family, but I am a hugger. You've actually made me think twice about hugging people now. Thanks. No, seriously, I have probably shocked a few people by hugging them too soon or....at all...like easy child's friend I just met at her graduation the other day! He must think I'm a loon. Whoops. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">Why do we put our own well being at risk because we're so afraid of putting others off? I see nothing wrong with calling girlfriend's mom and telling her simply that it will be a low key affair. You will be having dinner with family only and then friends (her included) are welcome to stop by at _______ PM for cake. And that's IT! </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">She needs to get over it. You can be nice and cordial without giving up too much of yourself when it's not convenient or okay with you. It doesn't matter WHY girlfriend's mother is the way she it - it's not your problem. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">Whenever I moved into a new house/apt, my mom would always tell me, "Don't get too chummy with the neighbors" and I would always think she was so anti-social. But now I understand. If you get too close too soon, there is virtually no way out without offending someone. However, if you are nice and cordial with this woman, but keep her at arm's length, she can't possibly be offended and if she is, then it's HER, not you. And there is always the opportunity to get close later if need be. It's more difficult to extract yourself from a relationship than it is to get into one. Pace yourself, woman (girlfriend's mom, not you!).</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">Good luck and hope your son's birthday is wonderful!</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 172682, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]:blushing: Oops, I am a hugger. I mean, I don't hug strangers or [most] people I've just met and I certainly don't throw out "I love you's" to anyone outside family, but I am a hugger. You've actually made me think twice about hugging people now. Thanks. No, seriously, I have probably shocked a few people by hugging them too soon or....at all...like easy child's friend I just met at her graduation the other day! He must think I'm a loon. Whoops. :winking:[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]Why do we put our own well being at risk because we're so afraid of putting others off? I see nothing wrong with calling girlfriend's mom and telling her simply that it will be a low key affair. You will be having dinner with family only and then friends (her included) are welcome to stop by at _______ PM for cake. And that's IT! [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]She needs to get over it. You can be nice and cordial without giving up too much of yourself when it's not convenient or okay with you. It doesn't matter WHY girlfriend's mother is the way she it - it's not your problem. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]Whenever I moved into a new house/apt, my mom would always tell me, "Don't get too chummy with the neighbors" and I would always think she was so anti-social. But now I understand. If you get too close too soon, there is virtually no way out without offending someone. However, if you are nice and cordial with this woman, but keep her at arm's length, she can't possibly be offended and if she is, then it's HER, not you. And there is always the opportunity to get close later if need be. It's more difficult to extract yourself from a relationship than it is to get into one. Pace yourself, woman (girlfriend's mom, not you!).[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]Good luck and hope your son's birthday is wonderful![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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