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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 523759" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well.................</p><p></p><p>I know Americans like to believe that all small town (like a village) folks are friendly and open ect ect...........And much of the time that can be true. But sometimes, the opposite is true when you move into a small community. In a village everyone knows everyone else, they know the good and the bad and all the gossip probably for many generations back. When someone new dares move in they can be viewed with curiosity, mistrust, or even as a threat simply because they're a stranger and no one knows them or anything about them or their family. </p><p></p><p>I have actually seen this time and again over the years.</p><p></p><p>My kids were surprised that everyone here in this small rural town had no issues with us "newcomers" and talk to us as if we've lived here forever. Yet I grew up spending most of my time in small towns among similar folk and I can talk the talk (which totally blew my kids minds away lol cuz I don't talk like that normally even though I did as a kid) and I know where they're coming from. easy child had some issues in school for a while and Travis did but it didn't last unusually long, just long enough for the kids to get to know them. (well Travis had issues due to gfgdom but you know what I mean) People had a much harder time with husband though........and husband didn't know what in the world to do with them either. lol He was a big city boy.</p><p></p><p>I'm going to guess this is some of your issue with the neighbors, add to that you're "worldly" which can be intimidating to many, and then there is probably a culture thing going on a tad but I'm going to guess it's the "there is a stranger in our mist" thing more than anything. </p><p></p><p>What would I do? I'd just correct them when they're wrong and keep being friendly, smile when you see them (don't let them know it bugs you in the least), and make sure to make some polite chit chat even if they don't respond at first.</p><p></p><p>In short..........Kill em with kindness. Funny thing about kindness, it's hard to have anything bad to say about it or to hold a grudge against it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 523759, member: 84"] Well................. I know Americans like to believe that all small town (like a village) folks are friendly and open ect ect...........And much of the time that can be true. But sometimes, the opposite is true when you move into a small community. In a village everyone knows everyone else, they know the good and the bad and all the gossip probably for many generations back. When someone new dares move in they can be viewed with curiosity, mistrust, or even as a threat simply because they're a stranger and no one knows them or anything about them or their family. I have actually seen this time and again over the years. My kids were surprised that everyone here in this small rural town had no issues with us "newcomers" and talk to us as if we've lived here forever. Yet I grew up spending most of my time in small towns among similar folk and I can talk the talk (which totally blew my kids minds away lol cuz I don't talk like that normally even though I did as a kid) and I know where they're coming from. easy child had some issues in school for a while and Travis did but it didn't last unusually long, just long enough for the kids to get to know them. (well Travis had issues due to gfgdom but you know what I mean) People had a much harder time with husband though........and husband didn't know what in the world to do with them either. lol He was a big city boy. I'm going to guess this is some of your issue with the neighbors, add to that you're "worldly" which can be intimidating to many, and then there is probably a culture thing going on a tad but I'm going to guess it's the "there is a stranger in our mist" thing more than anything. What would I do? I'd just correct them when they're wrong and keep being friendly, smile when you see them (don't let them know it bugs you in the least), and make sure to make some polite chit chat even if they don't respond at first. In short..........Kill em with kindness. Funny thing about kindness, it's hard to have anything bad to say about it or to hold a grudge against it. [/QUOTE]
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