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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 523978" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, being rude back when someone is rude to you is very human, almost instictive but... Buddy hit the nail on the head. The most intelligent response in a tiny community in which I am going to have to see these people regularly is to let it go as far as possible and maintain an outwardly civil relationship. In fact, I talked to the old guy this morning, as I think of him for some reason, though he is not that old (late sixties?) and we had a small chat. He said at one point - not how is your son? but... Is your son still as active as ever, still get as upset and annoyed as ever?... and then I twigged. The couple downstairs went over to socialise with them last night and they will have given all the gossip about hearing Jacob get so upset/angry at times... Hence the disrespectful attitude, I suspect - the old chestnut about the fatherless boy and the permissive mother who doesn't discipline him. Anyway, let them talk, they're never going to understand or be more compassionate or tolerant. As they say in French, in a village "ça jacasse" (pronounced like an American "jackass"...) - in other words, they gossip and gossip... Honestly, if I had the money I would leave the village and buy a house with big garden somewhere outside it... For the moment, alas, it's not on the financial cards. How nice, though, to be able to relax in one's own home without being criticised and judged! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 523978, member: 11227"] Yes, being rude back when someone is rude to you is very human, almost instictive but... Buddy hit the nail on the head. The most intelligent response in a tiny community in which I am going to have to see these people regularly is to let it go as far as possible and maintain an outwardly civil relationship. In fact, I talked to the old guy this morning, as I think of him for some reason, though he is not that old (late sixties?) and we had a small chat. He said at one point - not how is your son? but... Is your son still as active as ever, still get as upset and annoyed as ever?... and then I twigged. The couple downstairs went over to socialise with them last night and they will have given all the gossip about hearing Jacob get so upset/angry at times... Hence the disrespectful attitude, I suspect - the old chestnut about the fatherless boy and the permissive mother who doesn't discipline him. Anyway, let them talk, they're never going to understand or be more compassionate or tolerant. As they say in French, in a village "ça jacasse" (pronounced like an American "jackass"...) - in other words, they gossip and gossip... Honestly, if I had the money I would leave the village and buy a house with big garden somewhere outside it... For the moment, alas, it's not on the financial cards. How nice, though, to be able to relax in one's own home without being criticised and judged! :) [/QUOTE]
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