difficult child is no better, really, than he was when he was four. He's fourteen now. He doesn't hit, but he pushes me. He picks, picks, picks as if I were his sister (I know you know what that's like..) He NEVER comes home when we say.....anywhere from fifteen minutes late to an hour. I try not to make it a big deal for the fifteen, but the hour late is another story. He won't eat what we cook. He gorges through the night. He makes "scenes" in the yard with me which embarrasses me to no end. He still poops in his pants and I have to go around with gloves on picking up tiny droplets of it, then clean the carpet, most every day. He plugs the toilet with toilet paper causing it to overflow, despite repeated telling him to flush more than once while he's trying to go. He's sleeping very little. Sometimes falling asleep about 3:00 AM after he's kept me awake most of the night and I have to go to work. He's very, very disrespectful to me (and his father, but it's worse to me). He NEVER can speak to me in a civil tone.....it's always hateful and defensive (at least it isn't offensive. lol). I'm just soooo tired. No, there's no respite. We have no family except 80 year old parents and he's run off all my friends. I wouldn't push him on one of my friends anyway. We try to go out for dinner for an hour and a half, but there's no tellin' what he does while we're gone. Often he rummages through all our drawers and closets, the car, the garage, etc. Have no idea what he thinks he's looking for and he says, "nuthin'". Sorry, Board Members, just needed to vent.