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How much should a grandmother help with her daughters 4 children under 9???
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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 376409" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>My house isn't as "perfect" as my Mom would like. With my two, plus husband, I am sure she doesn't exactly get it. I wasn't a perfect child, but the rooms I am in... I usually keep my stuff neat.</p><p> </p><p>However... Occasionally I will ask her to come over and help (she offered; now I just accept it's her way of helping ME). Once she was here for about 6 hours, and we got the house presentable if not perfect. And a few weeks ago we spent 4 hours on the workroom in the garage (of course, I needed something to DO).</p><p> </p><p>Regardless - I am much neater now than I was when I first moved out. And her husband needs to help, or find someone TO help. I can see being overwhelmed so much she does nothing. But 4 kids - well, that's a huge handful. She needs help. And she needs to have some of the kids help - they ARE old enough. Small things for the smaller ones. Folding laundry is a good start - theirs, so no one much cares how it's folded. Plastic dishes until they get a bit older.</p><p> </p><p>YOU, on the other hand, should do just as much as you see fit - not a bit more. If you're frustrated by the mess, do a little and announce you're done, that you'll (help with homework, whatever) while SHE does some stuff.</p><p> </p><p>And if she gets nasty? Point out SHE asked YOU to help, you didn't descend on her like an avenging angel...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 376409, member: 6705"] My house isn't as "perfect" as my Mom would like. With my two, plus husband, I am sure she doesn't exactly get it. I wasn't a perfect child, but the rooms I am in... I usually keep my stuff neat. However... Occasionally I will ask her to come over and help (she offered; now I just accept it's her way of helping ME). Once she was here for about 6 hours, and we got the house presentable if not perfect. And a few weeks ago we spent 4 hours on the workroom in the garage (of course, I needed something to DO). Regardless - I am much neater now than I was when I first moved out. And her husband needs to help, or find someone TO help. I can see being overwhelmed so much she does nothing. But 4 kids - well, that's a huge handful. She needs help. And she needs to have some of the kids help - they ARE old enough. Small things for the smaller ones. Folding laundry is a good start - theirs, so no one much cares how it's folded. Plastic dishes until they get a bit older. YOU, on the other hand, should do just as much as you see fit - not a bit more. If you're frustrated by the mess, do a little and announce you're done, that you'll (help with homework, whatever) while SHE does some stuff. And if she gets nasty? Point out SHE asked YOU to help, you didn't descend on her like an avenging angel... [/QUOTE]
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