Allan-Matlem
Active Member
Hi,
This is really a continuation of my Thread - 5 reasons for not saying good job by Alfie Kohn. The New Yotk Times has a feaure on the ' inverse power of praise '
http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/
My impression from the article is that there is room for praise that focuses the kid on what was done , gets the kid to reflect and have a learning experience , rather than boost self esteem.
The article talks about praising the process, not the result. Myrna Shure talks about a similar idea, praise thinking not the solution or the result. The solution may be good in this situation, not in others.
The link to Alfie Kohn's article is http://www.alfiekohn.org/parenting/gj.htm
Allan
This is really a continuation of my Thread - 5 reasons for not saying good job by Alfie Kohn. The New Yotk Times has a feaure on the ' inverse power of praise '
http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/
My impression from the article is that there is room for praise that focuses the kid on what was done , gets the kid to reflect and have a learning experience , rather than boost self esteem.
The article talks about praising the process, not the result. Myrna Shure talks about a similar idea, praise thinking not the solution or the result. The solution may be good in this situation, not in others.
The link to Alfie Kohn's article is http://www.alfiekohn.org/parenting/gj.htm
Allan