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may have a slight injury or other ailment? When young, my difficult child used to be no problem when not feeling well but as he has gotten older, every minor thing is huge problem. If he hurts himself or is sick, he carries on like we need to call an ambulance or something! He howls about the pain, begs us to help him, etc.... Of course we assess the situation and offer appropriate measures, but what ever we suggest is no good. Nothing helps him, according to him, and he refuses to try anything. When we say we will take him to the doctor, he refuses to go saying the doctor can't do anything for him.
Of course in the mornings when there is a minor illness or injury, this leads to refusal to go to school! Another joy! And believe me, majority of the time, there is nothing significantly wrong where he needs to stay home.
This morning in the shower he started yelling because he got soap in his eyes and it was burning. Of course we rinsed it out for a while but as you can guess, that did not help. difficult child refused to get on the bus because his eyes were killing him and he could not even open them ( according to him). He refused to rinse them more and I looked closely and they were not even red. Of course I validated that I know soap can irritate the eyes and it will get better but the carrying on continued. By the way, difficult child was watching TV just fine with easy child, who was waiting for his bus to come.
I told difficult child I would not call the school to call him in sick and when they called here asking where he was, I was going to tell them it was an illegal absence and to send someone to get him ( I have no idea if they do that or not). I also told difficult child there were no video game or friends later due to this behavior. difficult child then said he would go to school but wanted me to call the school later to check on him to see if he needed to see the doctor because of his eyes.... I said sure, whatever, just so I can get him to go. So I then drove him in to school late ( missed first period the for like the 10th time!) while he whined and moaned the whole time that I didn't believe him and I was mean. But he did get out of the car and go into school!
Honestly though, is this over reacting to every little ailment common with kids who have anxiety? I know he does this to get out of doing something else he is not happy about but it is draining! Oh, and just my luck, husband was off today and although he thinks he helps by getting involved, it just escalates things because husband and difficult child are like oil and water! Ugh!
Jan
Of course in the mornings when there is a minor illness or injury, this leads to refusal to go to school! Another joy! And believe me, majority of the time, there is nothing significantly wrong where he needs to stay home.
This morning in the shower he started yelling because he got soap in his eyes and it was burning. Of course we rinsed it out for a while but as you can guess, that did not help. difficult child refused to get on the bus because his eyes were killing him and he could not even open them ( according to him). He refused to rinse them more and I looked closely and they were not even red. Of course I validated that I know soap can irritate the eyes and it will get better but the carrying on continued. By the way, difficult child was watching TV just fine with easy child, who was waiting for his bus to come.
I told difficult child I would not call the school to call him in sick and when they called here asking where he was, I was going to tell them it was an illegal absence and to send someone to get him ( I have no idea if they do that or not). I also told difficult child there were no video game or friends later due to this behavior. difficult child then said he would go to school but wanted me to call the school later to check on him to see if he needed to see the doctor because of his eyes.... I said sure, whatever, just so I can get him to go. So I then drove him in to school late ( missed first period the for like the 10th time!) while he whined and moaned the whole time that I didn't believe him and I was mean. But he did get out of the car and go into school!
Honestly though, is this over reacting to every little ailment common with kids who have anxiety? I know he does this to get out of doing something else he is not happy about but it is draining! Oh, and just my luck, husband was off today and although he thinks he helps by getting involved, it just escalates things because husband and difficult child are like oil and water! Ugh!
Jan