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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 112807" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I think that it's very easy to get your anger at your ex and his wife, mixed up with your concern for your child. Been there myself, many times. I resented any "help" my kids' dad tried to give, because *I* knew best. Even if I was right, and he DID make things worse, I still had to learn to let some of that anger go. </p><p></p><p>I remember one time years ago, when Oldest was having surgery. Her dad showed up, sat across the waiting room from me, and didn't speak. When the surgeon came out, my ex came over, only to grimace and walk away again when the surgeon described in detail what he'd had to do inside our daughter's abdomen. Her dad left without another word. I was in tears.. ticked off that he couldn't deal with OUR daughter's health issues... until a very kind woman who'd been waiting near me, said, "honey, at least he was here. Maybe that's all he's able to do." I've carried that comment with me, and repeated it to myself over the years.</p><p></p><p>Take a step back ... and do your best to untangle your feelings towards his dad and stepmom, and your concern for your son. It may help you look at things more objectively.</p><p></p><p>That's just my 2 cents, added to the great advice you've already received.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 112807, member: 1157"] I think that it's very easy to get your anger at your ex and his wife, mixed up with your concern for your child. Been there myself, many times. I resented any "help" my kids' dad tried to give, because *I* knew best. Even if I was right, and he DID make things worse, I still had to learn to let some of that anger go. I remember one time years ago, when Oldest was having surgery. Her dad showed up, sat across the waiting room from me, and didn't speak. When the surgeon came out, my ex came over, only to grimace and walk away again when the surgeon described in detail what he'd had to do inside our daughter's abdomen. Her dad left without another word. I was in tears.. ticked off that he couldn't deal with OUR daughter's health issues... until a very kind woman who'd been waiting near me, said, "honey, at least he was here. Maybe that's all he's able to do." I've carried that comment with me, and repeated it to myself over the years. Take a step back ... and do your best to untangle your feelings towards his dad and stepmom, and your concern for your son. It may help you look at things more objectively. That's just my 2 cents, added to the great advice you've already received. [/QUOTE]
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