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how will he pass a crimminal background check?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 628809" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Nothing you will ever do or try to do will help unless he is more upset about his own situation than you are, and he is working twice as hard as you are to turn his life around.</p><p></p><p>Nancy, I agree that a paid-for attorney who is not burdened by dozens of cases will likely help create a better outcome than a state-provided attorney. But if the person he/she is representing has no desire to change their lives for the better, you are spending money needlessly to help someone who has no motivation to change or help themselves.</p><p></p><p>They will be right back there again in no time. That is my son's case.</p><p></p><p>The first time he was arrested, I was hysterical and pulled out all the stops. Spent all of the money. I would have done anything. </p><p></p><p>And the second and the third. Slowly, slowly, I saw that nothing was changing. </p><p></p><p>This last time, we had a paid-for attorney plus the help and support of the District Attorney here. They put their heads together with the judge to come up with something for my son. The result is that he had "language" put in the record that said, if you get arrested again, your sentence becomes due---which is four years. </p><p></p><p>There truly is little to be done to help someone who doesn't want to change. All of the forces in the world can't fix it, including 10 paid-for attorneys. </p><p></p><p>My son has multiple misdemeanors and two felonies for selling drugs to an undercover police officer. It is truly mind-boggling, but it is reality.</p><p></p><p>If someone truly is humbled and gets honest and wants to change, and is working twice as hard as anybody else for to change, by all means, hire an attorney. If that ever happened with my son, I would gladly do that. But it never has. </p><p></p><p>I hate to see people throw their money away on rehabs and attorneys and jail fines and putting money on jail accounts and paying for apartments, and food, and baby clothes and diapers and....on and on and on....until they have no money for their own needs today and as they age, when the person they are trying so desperately to help isn't trying just as desperately to help themselves. I think it is a complete waste. And so sad to watch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 628809, member: 17542"] Nothing you will ever do or try to do will help unless he is more upset about his own situation than you are, and he is working twice as hard as you are to turn his life around. Nancy, I agree that a paid-for attorney who is not burdened by dozens of cases will likely help create a better outcome than a state-provided attorney. But if the person he/she is representing has no desire to change their lives for the better, you are spending money needlessly to help someone who has no motivation to change or help themselves. They will be right back there again in no time. That is my son's case. The first time he was arrested, I was hysterical and pulled out all the stops. Spent all of the money. I would have done anything. And the second and the third. Slowly, slowly, I saw that nothing was changing. This last time, we had a paid-for attorney plus the help and support of the District Attorney here. They put their heads together with the judge to come up with something for my son. The result is that he had "language" put in the record that said, if you get arrested again, your sentence becomes due---which is four years. There truly is little to be done to help someone who doesn't want to change. All of the forces in the world can't fix it, including 10 paid-for attorneys. My son has multiple misdemeanors and two felonies for selling drugs to an undercover police officer. It is truly mind-boggling, but it is reality. If someone truly is humbled and gets honest and wants to change, and is working twice as hard as anybody else for to change, by all means, hire an attorney. If that ever happened with my son, I would gladly do that. But it never has. I hate to see people throw their money away on rehabs and attorneys and jail fines and putting money on jail accounts and paying for apartments, and food, and baby clothes and diapers and....on and on and on....until they have no money for their own needs today and as they age, when the person they are trying so desperately to help isn't trying just as desperately to help themselves. I think it is a complete waste. And so sad to watch. [/QUOTE]
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