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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 520849" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>i have been a long firm believer that quite a lot of addicts are duel diagnosed. Not all of course but a good many of them. I would believe the percentage is way up there. I am sure that genetics factors in with whether they can stop when the mental health piece gets addressed properly. </p><p></p><p>I agree that you dont have to take any rude or aggressive talk from your son. I never took it from mine when he was in jail and he knew I would hang up. One thing you have to be on the lookout for. He will change back and forth. He will either be on his best behavior or he will swing it to threats. Oh he will do whatever you want and he is a changed kid. He will never do that again. All his stupid stuff is in the past and you were right. He has found Jesus and he wants to go to church. He needs a whole new group of friends and he is going to find them in the church youth group. Blah blah blah. If you are asking for therapy or substance abuse counseling, he will promise that and he will even promise something more. Then he will switch over to threatening you about all you better do for him or else he will get him self sent back to jail to punish you. That will make you see how much you missed him because he knows it was hard on you. It really wasnt all that bad for him. Then he will switch back and say how sorry he was. He wasnt in his right mind. He was scared. He was thinking with about how hard it was going to be to be in another controlled setting but he knows you are right. He needs it. He still wants to do everything he told you before. He will never use drugs again...blah blah. </p><p></p><p>He is manipulating you. I cant tell you how many times i heard those stories. If I had a dollar for every time Cory was going to go back to therapy, go get his GED, follow all my rules, yada yada. I would be a rich woman.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 520849, member: 1514"] i have been a long firm believer that quite a lot of addicts are duel diagnosed. Not all of course but a good many of them. I would believe the percentage is way up there. I am sure that genetics factors in with whether they can stop when the mental health piece gets addressed properly. I agree that you dont have to take any rude or aggressive talk from your son. I never took it from mine when he was in jail and he knew I would hang up. One thing you have to be on the lookout for. He will change back and forth. He will either be on his best behavior or he will swing it to threats. Oh he will do whatever you want and he is a changed kid. He will never do that again. All his stupid stuff is in the past and you were right. He has found Jesus and he wants to go to church. He needs a whole new group of friends and he is going to find them in the church youth group. Blah blah blah. If you are asking for therapy or substance abuse counseling, he will promise that and he will even promise something more. Then he will switch over to threatening you about all you better do for him or else he will get him self sent back to jail to punish you. That will make you see how much you missed him because he knows it was hard on you. It really wasnt all that bad for him. Then he will switch back and say how sorry he was. He wasnt in his right mind. He was scared. He was thinking with about how hard it was going to be to be in another controlled setting but he knows you are right. He needs it. He still wants to do everything he told you before. He will never use drugs again...blah blah. He is manipulating you. I cant tell you how many times i heard those stories. If I had a dollar for every time Cory was going to go back to therapy, go get his GED, follow all my rules, yada yada. I would be a rich woman. [/QUOTE]
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