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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 385764" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am glad you were able to start to talk it through. Is this a pattern? You and husband seem to have problems when you are not spending any time together, yet that is when you need each other most. When you have a chance, look back at your last three or four times of relationship trouble. ARe there any events problems, etc.. that led up to the problems? Are there similar miscommunications each time? What can you do to prevent this or work through it? husband and I did a LOT of this in the early days of our marriage. Looking back for patterns was a huge help to us. We do it even now.</p><p> </p><p>Blended families look and sound so hard to handle. The holiday planning, who does what and when, etc... I admire you and husband for blending your families and workign to make sure everyone gets what they need. It can be hard, but the rewards are great. </p><p> </p><p>Just remember that while self care may seem selfish, it is what keeps everything else functioning!! Marriage care needs to come second, and the kids work in after that. Of course sometimes a child's needs have to be the priority, but only in the short term. If Momma isn't happy, no one is. And if the marriage is not a priority, no one will be happy either.</p><p> </p><p>Lots of hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 385764, member: 1233"] I am glad you were able to start to talk it through. Is this a pattern? You and husband seem to have problems when you are not spending any time together, yet that is when you need each other most. When you have a chance, look back at your last three or four times of relationship trouble. ARe there any events problems, etc.. that led up to the problems? Are there similar miscommunications each time? What can you do to prevent this or work through it? husband and I did a LOT of this in the early days of our marriage. Looking back for patterns was a huge help to us. We do it even now. Blended families look and sound so hard to handle. The holiday planning, who does what and when, etc... I admire you and husband for blending your families and workign to make sure everyone gets what they need. It can be hard, but the rewards are great. Just remember that while self care may seem selfish, it is what keeps everything else functioning!! Marriage care needs to come second, and the kids work in after that. Of course sometimes a child's needs have to be the priority, but only in the short term. If Momma isn't happy, no one is. And if the marriage is not a priority, no one will be happy either. Lots of hugs! [/QUOTE]
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