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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 551770" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>DDD,</p><p>You are Wonder Woman! Honestly, I don't know how you've done it. Raising 6 kids and then 2 grandchildren. That's pretty amazing. And I can certainly understand why there is a sting and always will be in your relationship with difficult child mom. I think it's safe to say she continues to be a fairly self-centered/self-serving person. I just hope the years of GFGmom stress is not what has now affected your health now. I worry about you doing, giving, so much of yourself to others. I pray for you often, DDD. </p><p></p><p>Well I talked further with husband and he says that while he does have some resentments he feels, at least in our difficult child's cases, that this is reporation for all the damage done to our family and finances. He see's it as if we experienced a War. He said that in the case of easy child. He has put in his blood, sweat, and tears to get her to where she is today (particularly as it pertains to her bowling scholarship) and that if and when she is making a 100k a year, that 10% back, is not asking too much. </p><p></p><p>He said he thinks this should be an ongoing "family philosophy" that we took care of them and now it is their turn to take care of us. And, If all 3 of our adult children are fully functional at somepoint and each able to give us at least 300a week, then we should be taken care of in our older age. That is the hope husband has now. </p><p>Me...I just want them to be able to take care of their own families needs. </p><p></p><p>DDD, like you, it would be real easy for husband and I to end up with the grands if there was trouble. As you may recall, daughter in law and young difficult child's 3 children, are living with daughter in law's mother right now. No one wants to see the grandchildren go without. on the other hand, I am not in the same physical condition that I once was and not really sure I could handle it now...my mental stability is very important to me too. </p><p></p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 551770, member: 3305"] DDD, You are Wonder Woman! Honestly, I don't know how you've done it. Raising 6 kids and then 2 grandchildren. That's pretty amazing. And I can certainly understand why there is a sting and always will be in your relationship with difficult child mom. I think it's safe to say she continues to be a fairly self-centered/self-serving person. I just hope the years of GFGmom stress is not what has now affected your health now. I worry about you doing, giving, so much of yourself to others. I pray for you often, DDD. Well I talked further with husband and he says that while he does have some resentments he feels, at least in our difficult child's cases, that this is reporation for all the damage done to our family and finances. He see's it as if we experienced a War. He said that in the case of easy child. He has put in his blood, sweat, and tears to get her to where she is today (particularly as it pertains to her bowling scholarship) and that if and when she is making a 100k a year, that 10% back, is not asking too much. He said he thinks this should be an ongoing "family philosophy" that we took care of them and now it is their turn to take care of us. And, If all 3 of our adult children are fully functional at somepoint and each able to give us at least 300a week, then we should be taken care of in our older age. That is the hope husband has now. Me...I just want them to be able to take care of their own families needs. DDD, like you, it would be real easy for husband and I to end up with the grands if there was trouble. As you may recall, daughter in law and young difficult child's 3 children, are living with daughter in law's mother right now. No one wants to see the grandchildren go without. on the other hand, I am not in the same physical condition that I once was and not really sure I could handle it now...my mental stability is very important to me too. LMS [/QUOTE]
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