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<blockquote data-quote="2confused" data-source="post: 551956" data-attributes="member: 13893"><p>My 17 year old son has put us through a lot - including legal costs, home repairs, etc. He is in school making good grades right now and working part time. He started his job over the summer, has continued it with school, and is handing over his paychecks to pay us back for some of the costs. It's an agreement he made with himself and us. While it lasts (and it may not), we are happily taking his money. Truth be told, should he stay "straight", we will be giving that money back for him to use when he is fully trustworthy - to use for future school, etc., but he does not know this. For now, I think it is therapeutic for him to know he is helping fix some things he messed up. Unfortunately, as said - this may not last - and there is always the risk he will relapse into old behaviors, because his recovery is relatively new, but we are hopeful that this continues, and hopeful that he keeps his promise to himself and us. Since much of the money we have spent would have ultimately been used for his future, he is in effect "paying himself back" without knowing it, and hopefully gaining some insight at the same time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2confused, post: 551956, member: 13893"] My 17 year old son has put us through a lot - including legal costs, home repairs, etc. He is in school making good grades right now and working part time. He started his job over the summer, has continued it with school, and is handing over his paychecks to pay us back for some of the costs. It's an agreement he made with himself and us. While it lasts (and it may not), we are happily taking his money. Truth be told, should he stay "straight", we will be giving that money back for him to use when he is fully trustworthy - to use for future school, etc., but he does not know this. For now, I think it is therapeutic for him to know he is helping fix some things he messed up. Unfortunately, as said - this may not last - and there is always the risk he will relapse into old behaviors, because his recovery is relatively new, but we are hopeful that this continues, and hopeful that he keeps his promise to himself and us. Since much of the money we have spent would have ultimately been used for his future, he is in effect "paying himself back" without knowing it, and hopefully gaining some insight at the same time. [/QUOTE]
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