pinevalley
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We had a horrible battle at home tonight, and I don't know what to do next. Our difficult child invited 3 friends to our home tonight, and they were playing outside for awhile. difficult child and his friends were running all around our neighborhood, and our son refused to tell us where he was going. difficult child can be defiant and very stubborn, and he told me that the guys were next door when they were really at a girls house in the next neighborhood. When my husband found out that our son had lied about where he was going he got extremely upset. My husband and I told difficult child that he was grounded the next day, and that his friends had to go home immediately. difficult child got very mad at this, and he got into a shouting match with my husband. The fight started to get physical, and both difficult child and my husband were trying to hit each other. When my husband walked out of the room difficult child got so mad that he threw a heavy metal wheel at the wall, and he made a big hole in our wall. We then told difficult child that he should go find his friends and stay at their house tonight, because he wasn't welcome in our house tonight. Now my husband is furious with difficult child, and he has told me that he doesn't want to have anything to do with a son who has so many problems. He told me that he wishes that our son would find a new home, and that he doesn't want to live in the same house with our son. He has asked me to choose between my husband and our son, which I refuse to do. Our son has put several other holes in doors and walls in our house in the past, and we are tired of repairing damages caused by our son. My husband didn't even want to discuss anything about our son with me, and he said he had to get out of our house. He is now staying at a hotel for the night, and our son is staying with friends. I think that we should all see a family counselor, but my husband refuses to see anyone. My husband likes to give ultimatums to difficult child, and he gets mad when difficult child doesn't obey right away. I am afraid that our family may be splitting up, and I don't know how to stop this. I have already told difficult child that he is not allowed to see any of his friends until he fixes the hole in our wall. What can I do to help my husband and difficult child to understand each other better? thanks,