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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 408073" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>shari that made me weak you are soo right!! LOL. men do function that way all the time almost. we are different creatures we have files and their alphabetically listed and categorized. this is turning out to be an interesting thread. lol. i feel exactly the same. ex posts on your fb wall leave your wife and a whole thing after that. he doesnt' talk to her next day. yet two days later why'd you get a puppy i didnt' want it i told her no trust me. HELLO that's insane. lol.</p><p> </p><p>you wanna talk about weather, politics, whatever go for it. yet do not ask about me, my kids, what dog i got or didnt' get, what we are eating for dinner she's done that too. just silliness.</p><p> </p><p>Steely i get you and hey it took alot of hard word to be the loving cupcake you are lol. be proud of that dont' kick yourself in the butt over it. i'm soft also may not seem that way now. yet you have to get i just found my voice and thoughts on alot of different issues. so i'm strong willed now and maybe a bit over the top yet it wouldnt' be me if it wasnt right? LOL. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>see i've looked back also at past relationships etc. too. i dont' regret who i was than what decisions i made, if id been more this or that. because honestly it just wasnt' who i was than. i was just me and you can never go wrong with being true to self. if they dont fit than they dont' fit into that plan. i heard once the most important relationship you can have is the one with yourself. At the end will we have a partner, die alone all that horrifying thinking lol yet truth is regardless who we are with what marraiges didnt' work if we're good with us thru and thru it doesnt' matter whose by our side i think right? afterall we dont' get to bring someone in essence we are going to be alone.....</p><p> </p><p>i am not beating him up anymore about it. yet i wont' compromise my own boundaries for him anymore. i do love the man. yet without boundaries and a common thread of understanding between us havoc will ensue. as far as him acting out. honestly steely he gets up each day 5 daysa week goes to gym, than goes to work returns at midnight. he doesn't handle easy child or difficult child at all. i do it all. it's fine that's the deal he makes the money and i handle my kids and their chaos. so he gets if he asks the daily report on improvment. he isnt' really suffering with managing difficult child's behavior or easy child's outbursts i am. he escapes it all at a place called work lol 18 hours a day that he loves by the way.</p><p> </p><p>so he's here two days as week whereas most of the time our day is dictated by his therapy, gym, or wherever his ex tells him he has to take his kids afterschool activities hair cuts, doctor's etc. he's focus is his kids not mine. i've had to push him to say hey my kids are here too i get your kids see you two days a week yet mine do also so they needa littel you too. even if it's just engaging them in conversation at the dinner table. past several mos he sits in silence. whats that about? open your mouth ask about their day be engaged.</p><p> </p><p>make sense?? so it's all me here, hima t work making the money to keep it all flowing. yet the pressures' on me. i get he may feel it in his own way and in his own regard. yet it's different and he does escape it daily. where i may also add he talks to ex wife on phone texts etc. so i'm just looking for when he's actually here two days a week keep it clean dont text her all day pick up kids and be done with it. not so much to ask i think</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 408073, member: 4514"] shari that made me weak you are soo right!! LOL. men do function that way all the time almost. we are different creatures we have files and their alphabetically listed and categorized. this is turning out to be an interesting thread. lol. i feel exactly the same. ex posts on your fb wall leave your wife and a whole thing after that. he doesnt' talk to her next day. yet two days later why'd you get a puppy i didnt' want it i told her no trust me. HELLO that's insane. lol. you wanna talk about weather, politics, whatever go for it. yet do not ask about me, my kids, what dog i got or didnt' get, what we are eating for dinner she's done that too. just silliness. Steely i get you and hey it took alot of hard word to be the loving cupcake you are lol. be proud of that dont' kick yourself in the butt over it. i'm soft also may not seem that way now. yet you have to get i just found my voice and thoughts on alot of different issues. so i'm strong willed now and maybe a bit over the top yet it wouldnt' be me if it wasnt right? LOL. :) see i've looked back also at past relationships etc. too. i dont' regret who i was than what decisions i made, if id been more this or that. because honestly it just wasnt' who i was than. i was just me and you can never go wrong with being true to self. if they dont fit than they dont' fit into that plan. i heard once the most important relationship you can have is the one with yourself. At the end will we have a partner, die alone all that horrifying thinking lol yet truth is regardless who we are with what marraiges didnt' work if we're good with us thru and thru it doesnt' matter whose by our side i think right? afterall we dont' get to bring someone in essence we are going to be alone..... i am not beating him up anymore about it. yet i wont' compromise my own boundaries for him anymore. i do love the man. yet without boundaries and a common thread of understanding between us havoc will ensue. as far as him acting out. honestly steely he gets up each day 5 daysa week goes to gym, than goes to work returns at midnight. he doesn't handle easy child or difficult child at all. i do it all. it's fine that's the deal he makes the money and i handle my kids and their chaos. so he gets if he asks the daily report on improvment. he isnt' really suffering with managing difficult child's behavior or easy child's outbursts i am. he escapes it all at a place called work lol 18 hours a day that he loves by the way. so he's here two days as week whereas most of the time our day is dictated by his therapy, gym, or wherever his ex tells him he has to take his kids afterschool activities hair cuts, doctor's etc. he's focus is his kids not mine. i've had to push him to say hey my kids are here too i get your kids see you two days a week yet mine do also so they needa littel you too. even if it's just engaging them in conversation at the dinner table. past several mos he sits in silence. whats that about? open your mouth ask about their day be engaged. make sense?? so it's all me here, hima t work making the money to keep it all flowing. yet the pressures' on me. i get he may feel it in his own way and in his own regard. yet it's different and he does escape it daily. where i may also add he talks to ex wife on phone texts etc. so i'm just looking for when he's actually here two days a week keep it clean dont text her all day pick up kids and be done with it. not so much to ask i think [/QUOTE]
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