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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 577415" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sweetie, I am so sorry. I know what I say will probably be hard to hear, but it is the truth.</p><p></p><p>Your husband is VERY VERY VERY ABUSIVE. You need to call a domestic violence center TONIGHT. You will be shocked at how they respond to your husband's behavior. He may not have ever hit you or the kids, but he is still incredibly abusive. </p><p></p><p>A domestic violence center will be able to help with just about everything. They can help you learn to deal with your anger, they will provide free therapy, both one and one and group. They will help find resources for your kids, and will provide therapy and help for your kids. They will help with the finances, with getting custody, with getting your share of the marital assets (NOT just what he wants to give you), and they will help you get a restraining order so that you husband can NEVER EVER EVER do that to you or your kids in your own home.</p><p></p><p>Home is where you are supposed to feel safe and loved. I don't think that either you or your kids has had that in a long time. The kids feel that love from YOU, but not from your husband and not in a home he controls so severely.</p><p></p><p>A tinkertoy on the floor will NOT ruin the house's value, neither will shoes put in the wrong place. Well, not until you have several hundred pounds of tinkertoys and pairs of shoes. Even then, once the toys and shoes are removed, the house's value will not be changed. </p><p></p><p>Your husband isn't just wrong, he is abusive. You need help and so do your kids. I am urging you with EVERY fiber of my being and iota of my soul to make a call to the DV center, go in for an intake appointment, and take advantage of their help. So what is husband is angry that you got help and told of his abuse? He clearly is not wanting to be a loving father, or husband.</p><p></p><p>You are worth so very much more. Infinitely more than this man you are married to. So are your wonderful, precious children. You need help to see this, and there is help out there. PLEASE reach out for it. PLEASE. </p><p></p><p>You have a responsibility to protect your children. Right now your husband is abusive an you MUST protect BOTH your kids from him. They are BOTH being damaged by him, not just ds13. So it is time to step up for them if you cannot do it for yourself. Getting help for ALL of you is the priority now, not if someone is going to have a fit because you are not perfect and neither is your home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 577415, member: 1233"] Sweetie, I am so sorry. I know what I say will probably be hard to hear, but it is the truth. Your husband is VERY VERY VERY ABUSIVE. You need to call a domestic violence center TONIGHT. You will be shocked at how they respond to your husband's behavior. He may not have ever hit you or the kids, but he is still incredibly abusive. A domestic violence center will be able to help with just about everything. They can help you learn to deal with your anger, they will provide free therapy, both one and one and group. They will help find resources for your kids, and will provide therapy and help for your kids. They will help with the finances, with getting custody, with getting your share of the marital assets (NOT just what he wants to give you), and they will help you get a restraining order so that you husband can NEVER EVER EVER do that to you or your kids in your own home. Home is where you are supposed to feel safe and loved. I don't think that either you or your kids has had that in a long time. The kids feel that love from YOU, but not from your husband and not in a home he controls so severely. A tinkertoy on the floor will NOT ruin the house's value, neither will shoes put in the wrong place. Well, not until you have several hundred pounds of tinkertoys and pairs of shoes. Even then, once the toys and shoes are removed, the house's value will not be changed. Your husband isn't just wrong, he is abusive. You need help and so do your kids. I am urging you with EVERY fiber of my being and iota of my soul to make a call to the DV center, go in for an intake appointment, and take advantage of their help. So what is husband is angry that you got help and told of his abuse? He clearly is not wanting to be a loving father, or husband. You are worth so very much more. Infinitely more than this man you are married to. So are your wonderful, precious children. You need help to see this, and there is help out there. PLEASE reach out for it. PLEASE. You have a responsibility to protect your children. Right now your husband is abusive an you MUST protect BOTH your kids from him. They are BOTH being damaged by him, not just ds13. So it is time to step up for them if you cannot do it for yourself. Getting help for ALL of you is the priority now, not if someone is going to have a fit because you are not perfect and neither is your home. [/QUOTE]
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