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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 447009" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>I've consulted with two lawyers. One immediately after husband left. That one indicated he would 'threaten' husband with revealing the information in court and felt that would be sufficient to get him to back down. The more recent one I picked because he was a child psychologist in a previous life and an active guardian ad litem. Well, he wanted to know how I thought the kids would react if I TOLD THEM. Ah, NOT AN OPTION. So I'll still consult with him if I need advice for procedures, witnesses, etc, but money is a really big issue right now (stupid transmission)</p><p></p><p><strong>gvcmom</strong>, I've considered calling CPS, but that means telling the story to yet another person that may or not be able to help. I will revisit the thought if/when I'm convinced I MUST reveal this information in court. </p><p></p><p><strong>Haozi</strong>, He's currently filling as Head of Household with <strong>2</strong> dependents. Unfortunately, since it's a transcript, it doesn't show who the dependents are. I know she's one, but who on earth is the other one? Hmmmmmmm gonna have to investigate that one. I've considered going up myself to "spy" and try and catch some pics, but with DD1 having been unstable, even a weekend getaway is out of the question. Anyone else I can ask to go, either has kids and can't go, or I can't trust enough to let them know what info I need.</p><p></p><p><strong>Hound Dog</strong>, you summed up my concerns. Again I am not trying to keep HIM from the kids. I have several documented conversations of me stating this and if he didn't like my <strong>1</strong> stipulation, he was free to take me to court. I'm hoping my first impression of the GM holds up and he won't look too kindly on that and "see" the reason I'm stating is the reason husband did not pursue court action. BUT this is FL - Land of crazy judgements.</p><p></p><p><strong>mattsmom</strong>, you stated logical reasoning, and in US courts, that is the same way things "should" go, but time and time again we see that it doesn't. That is what has me so concerned. Fortunately, he doesn't want the kids to know either. Her, I'm not so sure. I'm actually concerned that she would try 'indoctrinating' son into the family 'games' (by the way she is the older sibling by 3 years)</p><p></p><p><strong>donna</strong>, they call it a morality clause, and I've looked into it. The big problem is proving the "playing house". It is often written as a non-relative staying over, but that doesn't work in this situation. LMAO because otherwise I cry. Oh, and no insurance.</p><p></p><p>I am still hoping I won't have to reveal this in court, but will do whatever I have to to protect my kids. They were born with issues, and now have to deal with divorce, and these 'grown up details' would be just too much.</p><p></p><p>WOW! As draining and anxiety provoking as it is, it feels good to let it out. If it were just me, I would have called the cops (or local DA) on them years ago. Yeah, it's illegal even when both are consenting adults. I'm not big at keeping secrets - I'm pretty much an open book, but again, do what I must to protect my kids. The secret keeping, as much as the whole situation, stresses me to no end.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the responses and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 447009, member: 11965"] I've consulted with two lawyers. One immediately after husband left. That one indicated he would 'threaten' husband with revealing the information in court and felt that would be sufficient to get him to back down. The more recent one I picked because he was a child psychologist in a previous life and an active guardian ad litem. Well, he wanted to know how I thought the kids would react if I TOLD THEM. Ah, NOT AN OPTION. So I'll still consult with him if I need advice for procedures, witnesses, etc, but money is a really big issue right now (stupid transmission) [B]gvcmom[/B], I've considered calling CPS, but that means telling the story to yet another person that may or not be able to help. I will revisit the thought if/when I'm convinced I MUST reveal this information in court. [B]Haozi[/B], He's currently filling as Head of Household with [B]2[/B] dependents. Unfortunately, since it's a transcript, it doesn't show who the dependents are. I know she's one, but who on earth is the other one? Hmmmmmmm gonna have to investigate that one. I've considered going up myself to "spy" and try and catch some pics, but with DD1 having been unstable, even a weekend getaway is out of the question. Anyone else I can ask to go, either has kids and can't go, or I can't trust enough to let them know what info I need. [B]Hound Dog[/B], you summed up my concerns. Again I am not trying to keep HIM from the kids. I have several documented conversations of me stating this and if he didn't like my [B]1[/B] stipulation, he was free to take me to court. I'm hoping my first impression of the GM holds up and he won't look too kindly on that and "see" the reason I'm stating is the reason husband did not pursue court action. BUT this is FL - Land of crazy judgements. [B]mattsmom[/B], you stated logical reasoning, and in US courts, that is the same way things "should" go, but time and time again we see that it doesn't. That is what has me so concerned. Fortunately, he doesn't want the kids to know either. Her, I'm not so sure. I'm actually concerned that she would try 'indoctrinating' son into the family 'games' (by the way she is the older sibling by 3 years) [B]donna[/B], they call it a morality clause, and I've looked into it. The big problem is proving the "playing house". It is often written as a non-relative staying over, but that doesn't work in this situation. LMAO because otherwise I cry. Oh, and no insurance. I am still hoping I won't have to reveal this in court, but will do whatever I have to to protect my kids. They were born with issues, and now have to deal with divorce, and these 'grown up details' would be just too much. WOW! As draining and anxiety provoking as it is, it feels good to let it out. If it were just me, I would have called the cops (or local DA) on them years ago. Yeah, it's illegal even when both are consenting adults. I'm not big at keeping secrets - I'm pretty much an open book, but again, do what I must to protect my kids. The secret keeping, as much as the whole situation, stresses me to no end. Thanks for the responses and support. [/QUOTE]
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