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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 651612" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>That is a helpful and important point. This is NOT his only issue. His future does not hang in the balance of your decision here. You do what feels right to you.</p><p></p><p>On the lying and stealing front...my Difficult Child (and I will emphasize again that he was always very sweet and kind of clueless appearing, never confrontational, never angry or threatening) started stealing from us very young. When he was in middle school he would leave the house with his backpack packed with DVDs and CDS. You know what ? I had no idea what he was doing!!!! I thought he was just a little ocdish, needed to have the things he loved near him. </p><p></p><p>I confused myself a lot in those days.</p><p></p><p>Actually I have never fully stopped. </p><p>But wait, this is a bad path for me so I will stop now.</p><p></p><p>The point is...he was stealing for YEARS. Change in the house, ipods from his siblings, his sisters's bike from the garage (actually, I think in the end he stole all our bikes...since we are city dwellers bike theft is kind of a fact of life and we overlooked it).</p><p></p><p>It couldn't ahve been more obvious. But I never saw.</p><p></p><p>I thought I was careless and misplaced stuff.</p><p></p><p>Including that tennis bracelet.</p><p></p><p>Maybe I did misplace stuff? Where is that pearl necklace? I bet he took it last summer when he took the Bose speakers and his sister's iphone.</p><p></p><p>I never called the police.</p><p></p><p>I did bar him from the house. Probably forever. </p><p></p><p>I ramble...but I just want you to know that I hear and feel the intricacies of your situation with your son...and...try not to catastrophize. His future is his, and will play out as it will. IF you do'nt report him some one else will. If you do, he will or won't go to jail and that won't be the thing that breaks or ruins him. He is writing his own script...you write your own too.</p><p></p><p>Try to find space in these crazy days. Try to go to a movie with your husband, distract your mind...can you go dancing? bowling? throw those balls down the alley at some pins! Try to keep your self and your life whole. </p><p></p><p>Holding you in my heart these days,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 651612, member: 17269"] That is a helpful and important point. This is NOT his only issue. His future does not hang in the balance of your decision here. You do what feels right to you. On the lying and stealing front...my Difficult Child (and I will emphasize again that he was always very sweet and kind of clueless appearing, never confrontational, never angry or threatening) started stealing from us very young. When he was in middle school he would leave the house with his backpack packed with DVDs and CDS. You know what ? I had no idea what he was doing!!!! I thought he was just a little ocdish, needed to have the things he loved near him. I confused myself a lot in those days. Actually I have never fully stopped. But wait, this is a bad path for me so I will stop now. The point is...he was stealing for YEARS. Change in the house, ipods from his siblings, his sisters's bike from the garage (actually, I think in the end he stole all our bikes...since we are city dwellers bike theft is kind of a fact of life and we overlooked it). It couldn't ahve been more obvious. But I never saw. I thought I was careless and misplaced stuff. Including that tennis bracelet. Maybe I did misplace stuff? Where is that pearl necklace? I bet he took it last summer when he took the Bose speakers and his sister's iphone. I never called the police. I did bar him from the house. Probably forever. I ramble...but I just want you to know that I hear and feel the intricacies of your situation with your son...and...try not to catastrophize. His future is his, and will play out as it will. IF you do'nt report him some one else will. If you do, he will or won't go to jail and that won't be the thing that breaks or ruins him. He is writing his own script...you write your own too. Try to find space in these crazy days. Try to go to a movie with your husband, distract your mind...can you go dancing? bowling? throw those balls down the alley at some pins! Try to keep your self and your life whole. Holding you in my heart these days, Echo [/QUOTE]
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