We're having major hygiene issues with LM, she's 9 & already starting puberty. She won't wipe, doesn't wash in the shower unless you stand in there & monitor her, wont use deodorant so she smells like BO all the time. She refuses to brush her hair. I fix it every morning & she takes it down & comes home a mess. She won't wipe her face & walks around with food on her face & 'drink mustaches'. She lies about brushing her teeth. And when it comes to clothing she WILL ask for something cute to wear but per her skewed rules of cute which means a dress or skirt & dress shoes bc jeans are not cute. But then she doesn't even attempt to keep herself looking nice. She comes home everyday looking like a homeless child or one of those kids they put in the commercials to get you to donate money; covered in dirt, hair everywhere & greasy if I didn't wash it for her. It's driving me insane & she really doesn't care about any of it. I know this behavior is a red flag for several things but I don't know specifically what. Anyone else having this issue? & what do you do??