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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 206751" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Hi, and welcome! It's wonderful that you're making this effort with your grandson. If his diagnosis of Conduct Disorder has been carefully made after a thorough evaluation, your daughter will have her hands full with him and will truly appreciate your support. </p><p></p><p>You have identified one issue that comes up - the drain on family time, attention, and energy that a youngster with this diagnosis can create. It is important for you and your daughter not to cave in or be held hostage to your grandson's demands for attention. The other children need and deserve equal time. However, it's a challenge to cope with the behaviors that may result. May I suggest that you read Stanton Samenow's book, "Before It's Too Late: Why Some Kids Get Into Trouble - and What Parents Can Do About It"? It offers insight into the thinking and behavior of kids with Conduct Disorder and gives suggestions for effective parenting. Your grandson is young enough that he could benefit a great deal from the common-sense techniques, but only if all of the adults in his life are on the same page. He will be very good at triangulating the adults around him - at telling each of them different stories, getting them angry with each other, and evading responsibility for his actions while the adults argue. You and anyone else who cares for/supervises him will need to get together and agree on methods of parenting and discipline, and will need to keep communication with each other open rather than implicitly believing whatever your grandson tells you. It is difficult but you have time to work with this young man before he becomes set in his thinking and behaviors.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, and if you have other questions please keep posting. Feel free to private message me about Conduct Disorder if you like.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 206751, member: 2884"] Hi, and welcome! It's wonderful that you're making this effort with your grandson. If his diagnosis of Conduct Disorder has been carefully made after a thorough evaluation, your daughter will have her hands full with him and will truly appreciate your support. You have identified one issue that comes up - the drain on family time, attention, and energy that a youngster with this diagnosis can create. It is important for you and your daughter not to cave in or be held hostage to your grandson's demands for attention. The other children need and deserve equal time. However, it's a challenge to cope with the behaviors that may result. May I suggest that you read Stanton Samenow's book, "Before It's Too Late: Why Some Kids Get Into Trouble - and What Parents Can Do About It"? It offers insight into the thinking and behavior of kids with Conduct Disorder and gives suggestions for effective parenting. Your grandson is young enough that he could benefit a great deal from the common-sense techniques, but only if all of the adults in his life are on the same page. He will be very good at triangulating the adults around him - at telling each of them different stories, getting them angry with each other, and evading responsibility for his actions while the adults argue. You and anyone else who cares for/supervises him will need to get together and agree on methods of parenting and discipline, and will need to keep communication with each other open rather than implicitly believing whatever your grandson tells you. It is difficult but you have time to work with this young man before he becomes set in his thinking and behaviors. Good luck, and if you have other questions please keep posting. Feel free to private message me about Conduct Disorder if you like. [/QUOTE]
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