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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 549352" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>There nothing wrong with you being an ostrich in this situation. Honestly what else can you do, demand he acknowledge that he is not a student and this is all a lie? What would that do, just cause a big fight and he will storm out and it will shut the door on any reconciliation. When he gets back to college town and realizes nothing is working out he can make up a story to tell you and come back and hopefully get his life back on track.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why our difficult children continue to live a lie. When my difficult child came over the other day she said she has been thinking about going bac to school to be a vet tech. All I could do was say "oh?" She said she had to save money first. Here she is working part time in a bar/restaurant as a hostess making minumum wage and has to pay her rent in two monthly installments, is in debt with her credit card over $1,000 and has collectors after her, hasn;t paid her internet bill in months and it was shut off, don't know how long she will have electricity, has to call us every couple weeks to have us fill her car up with gas, can't afford her car insurance, and is on food stamps. Like you I just put my head in the sand and ignored the obvious. What she doesn't know is that I know she registered for a sugar daddy/sugar baby site where it is more respectful to say you are doing it for tuition money rather than to support your lifestyle of drinking and drugging.</p><p></p><p>She also said she was thinking about moving back on this side of town because it's scary where she lives. She knows she has no credit and would never be able to sign a lease after they checked her credit and she has a big dog and cat that apartments won't take. Talk about living in a dream world. I just listened, offered no advice other than to tell her about a place to apply for full time work, and gave no more thought to the fact that she's thinking about going back to school. All a pipe dream or a cover-up.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child is going to do what he wants to do and you are wise to just let that play out. You have left the door to your home open and he knows that.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 549352, member: 59"] There nothing wrong with you being an ostrich in this situation. Honestly what else can you do, demand he acknowledge that he is not a student and this is all a lie? What would that do, just cause a big fight and he will storm out and it will shut the door on any reconciliation. When he gets back to college town and realizes nothing is working out he can make up a story to tell you and come back and hopefully get his life back on track. I don't know why our difficult children continue to live a lie. When my difficult child came over the other day she said she has been thinking about going bac to school to be a vet tech. All I could do was say "oh?" She said she had to save money first. Here she is working part time in a bar/restaurant as a hostess making minumum wage and has to pay her rent in two monthly installments, is in debt with her credit card over $1,000 and has collectors after her, hasn;t paid her internet bill in months and it was shut off, don't know how long she will have electricity, has to call us every couple weeks to have us fill her car up with gas, can't afford her car insurance, and is on food stamps. Like you I just put my head in the sand and ignored the obvious. What she doesn't know is that I know she registered for a sugar daddy/sugar baby site where it is more respectful to say you are doing it for tuition money rather than to support your lifestyle of drinking and drugging. She also said she was thinking about moving back on this side of town because it's scary where she lives. She knows she has no credit and would never be able to sign a lease after they checked her credit and she has a big dog and cat that apartments won't take. Talk about living in a dream world. I just listened, offered no advice other than to tell her about a place to apply for full time work, and gave no more thought to the fact that she's thinking about going back to school. All a pipe dream or a cover-up. Your difficult child is going to do what he wants to do and you are wise to just let that play out. You have left the door to your home open and he knows that. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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