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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 281976" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, ok, ok. Whoa!!!! Your son is not choosing to stimulant instead of interacting with his sister. You are witnessing "normal" austic behavior. He isn't choosing to be autistic. He is. in my opinion you need to learn a lot about his disorder as he is being blamed for having it. Here are my thoughts, as the mom of a spesctrum child I typed this paragraph after the rest of it, so this may be a bit repetitious, but the part about him choosing to stimulant got to me. YOu are taking his behavior too personally. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids DON'T PLAY normally and often can't interact, not even with his sister. This isn't his fault. He isn't going to be a good companion to his sister because he can't be and in my opinion he shouldn't be punished for his autism. It's a real and debilitating disorder. You are going to have to amuse your daughter and make her understand her brother as she grows up. The professionals are probably trying to get you to realize that HE CAN'T HELP IT. in my opinion, and I say this kindly, you need to get out of denial and realize you have a son with a serious disability. He's not "bad" he needs your help. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is not a diagnosis. It means autistic spectrum disorder. If you mean Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, which IS a diagnosis, my son had that diagnosis. too.</p><p></p><p>To me it sounds like he is acting like a kid on the spectrum. They don't "ignore" us on purpose. They often are not tuned into us, and many Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids have their hearing checked because they don't respond appropriately to their name being called--they spend a lot of time in their own worlds. The very essence of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is not understanding people's emotions. I doubt he "gets" why his sister is upset. Also these kids do shut down. My son is fifteen and still shuts down when the overload is too great. in my opinion it would be helpful to see an autism specialist so you can learn about your son and how he is wired differently and how you need to parent him different--and have different expectations of them than his sister and other kids. He can achieve and grow, but he needs Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions, not a behavioral specialist. I do not believe your son is being willfully oppositional. These kids really ARE very different and pretty socially clueless and don't "get" social norms and they need help or they get frustrated and act out. My son was horrible when he was younger--but he got a lot of help--now he is the sweetest teen on earth and even has friends. in my opinion if you treat him as if he is "bad" you will only make things worse. Find somebody who really understands Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and work with that person. I think you'll be surprised at the neat little boy you have behind the autistic spectrum disorder. Most of these kids really want to do well, but are confused and need almost text book teaching about social norms. Your son sounds like he desperately wants friends, but has no idea how to do it. He needs social skills classes as well as speech and probably Occupational Therapist (OT)/maybe PT. These are all things my son had since before he turned two years old and it paid off. THey do not respond to interventions for "typical" kids. Good luck, and welcome to the board. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 281976, member: 1550"] Ok, ok, ok. Whoa!!!! Your son is not choosing to stimulant instead of interacting with his sister. You are witnessing "normal" austic behavior. He isn't choosing to be autistic. He is. in my opinion you need to learn a lot about his disorder as he is being blamed for having it. Here are my thoughts, as the mom of a spesctrum child I typed this paragraph after the rest of it, so this may be a bit repetitious, but the part about him choosing to stimulant got to me. YOu are taking his behavior too personally. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids DON'T PLAY normally and often can't interact, not even with his sister. This isn't his fault. He isn't going to be a good companion to his sister because he can't be and in my opinion he shouldn't be punished for his autism. It's a real and debilitating disorder. You are going to have to amuse your daughter and make her understand her brother as she grows up. The professionals are probably trying to get you to realize that HE CAN'T HELP IT. in my opinion, and I say this kindly, you need to get out of denial and realize you have a son with a serious disability. He's not "bad" he needs your help. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is not a diagnosis. It means autistic spectrum disorder. If you mean Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, which IS a diagnosis, my son had that diagnosis. too. To me it sounds like he is acting like a kid on the spectrum. They don't "ignore" us on purpose. They often are not tuned into us, and many Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids have their hearing checked because they don't respond appropriately to their name being called--they spend a lot of time in their own worlds. The very essence of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is not understanding people's emotions. I doubt he "gets" why his sister is upset. Also these kids do shut down. My son is fifteen and still shuts down when the overload is too great. in my opinion it would be helpful to see an autism specialist so you can learn about your son and how he is wired differently and how you need to parent him different--and have different expectations of them than his sister and other kids. He can achieve and grow, but he needs Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions, not a behavioral specialist. I do not believe your son is being willfully oppositional. These kids really ARE very different and pretty socially clueless and don't "get" social norms and they need help or they get frustrated and act out. My son was horrible when he was younger--but he got a lot of help--now he is the sweetest teen on earth and even has friends. in my opinion if you treat him as if he is "bad" you will only make things worse. Find somebody who really understands Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and work with that person. I think you'll be surprised at the neat little boy you have behind the autistic spectrum disorder. Most of these kids really want to do well, but are confused and need almost text book teaching about social norms. Your son sounds like he desperately wants friends, but has no idea how to do it. He needs social skills classes as well as speech and probably Occupational Therapist (OT)/maybe PT. These are all things my son had since before he turned two years old and it paid off. THey do not respond to interventions for "typical" kids. Good luck, and welcome to the board. :happy: [/QUOTE]
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