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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 282281" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I think one of the most difficult things to understand about young children with control issues is that their moods can turn on and off very quickly. A child may have a perfectly fine day at school but walk in the door at home and come unglued. Or as you noted where he could switch to a happy child in the middle of an episode if someone walked in. Children with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and/or ODD are by nature going to be more volitaile in their moods--that's a given so you should just expect that. If you observe closely what you might see is that an improvement in mood comes when a distraction (such as a visitor) comes along to help them stop perservating about the negative episode. If you see that pattern, then you may be able to use that to your advantage and keep some distractions handy.</p><p></p><p>The second thing I think is important to remember is that a child with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and difficult behaviors has A LOT of strikes against them when it comes to behaving appropriately. Even adults with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) struggle with this and often it takes them a great deal of concentrated effort. His teachers and therapists no doubt believe he could control some of this but what they also need to be emphasizing is that it will be a process that will be learned over time. Honestly it's usually very slow going in the early years. You probably never will take the control freak out of the individual but you can start chipping away slowing in hopes that the control freak part will settle down and not be so overreactive.</p><p></p><p>And most of us have to really work on our attitudes about that because it's infuriating to go through hours of a tantrum only to see it lift, say the moment the Great God Daddy walks in the house. We see them suddently controlling themselves in a situation like this and it's natural to expect it to transfer. But it's just not as quick and easy as that.</p><p></p><p>If what you're doing isn't working, it's time to look elsewhere for ideas. Have his teachers and behavioral therapist got you set up with social stories yet? If not, you'll want to do your homework on those because often they're very effective in helping children with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) learn appropriate behaviors. </p><p></p><p>Are you familiar with the Model Me Kids DVD's? I'm hearing rave reviews about these:</p><p><a href="http://www.modelmekids.com/" target="_blank">http://www.modelmekids.com/</a></p><p></p><p>Joy Berry "Let's Talk About...." books:</p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Feeling-Sad/dp/0590623877/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1245060606&sr=8-15" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Feeling-Sad/dp/0590623877/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1245060606&sr=8-15</a></p><p></p><p>If you're not getting the help you need from the behavioral therapists and professionals you've seen, have you gone in search of someone else?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 282281, member: 701"] I think one of the most difficult things to understand about young children with control issues is that their moods can turn on and off very quickly. A child may have a perfectly fine day at school but walk in the door at home and come unglued. Or as you noted where he could switch to a happy child in the middle of an episode if someone walked in. Children with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and/or ODD are by nature going to be more volitaile in their moods--that's a given so you should just expect that. If you observe closely what you might see is that an improvement in mood comes when a distraction (such as a visitor) comes along to help them stop perservating about the negative episode. If you see that pattern, then you may be able to use that to your advantage and keep some distractions handy. The second thing I think is important to remember is that a child with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and difficult behaviors has A LOT of strikes against them when it comes to behaving appropriately. Even adults with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) struggle with this and often it takes them a great deal of concentrated effort. His teachers and therapists no doubt believe he could control some of this but what they also need to be emphasizing is that it will be a process that will be learned over time. Honestly it's usually very slow going in the early years. You probably never will take the control freak out of the individual but you can start chipping away slowing in hopes that the control freak part will settle down and not be so overreactive. And most of us have to really work on our attitudes about that because it's infuriating to go through hours of a tantrum only to see it lift, say the moment the Great God Daddy walks in the house. We see them suddently controlling themselves in a situation like this and it's natural to expect it to transfer. But it's just not as quick and easy as that. If what you're doing isn't working, it's time to look elsewhere for ideas. Have his teachers and behavioral therapist got you set up with social stories yet? If not, you'll want to do your homework on those because often they're very effective in helping children with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) learn appropriate behaviors. Are you familiar with the Model Me Kids DVD's? I'm hearing rave reviews about these: [url]http://www.modelmekids.com/[/url] Joy Berry "Let's Talk About...." books: [url]http://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Feeling-Sad/dp/0590623877/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1245060606&sr=8-15[/url] If you're not getting the help you need from the behavioral therapists and professionals you've seen, have you gone in search of someone else? [/QUOTE]
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