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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 328481" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Well, actually....</p><p></p><p>I just talked to easy child and asked him if they were moving out. He said he didn't know because they couldn't afford it. I know they don't want to go to my mom's because she's 45 minutes away and their work (if easy child gets the job it looks like he's getting, too) and DF's school are up here.</p><p></p><p>I told him that they don't have to move out, but that things HAVE to change. I told him that I will not be told how to parent by an 18 year old kid who has never raised a child, let alone a child with issues like difficult child. And, yes, I have addressed this before. I told him that I appreciate the things they do around the house, but that I'm not going to have it thrown in my face. And I told him that difficult child resents the hell out of them just as much as they resent her. easy child said he doesn't resent her. I told him that DF does, and that I'm not playing referee any more between an adult teenager and a teenage teenager. I get it from both sides, and I'm not having it. Besides, DF moved into difficult child's home. She doesn't get to change the rules.</p><p></p><p>He said he doesn't mind running errands, it's just when he goes out 3 times a day. I apologized for that, but my brain just really doesn't work. I honestly didn't know what day it was this morning. It took me 15 minutes to remember that the computer could tell me. I forgot to pay the water bill and I'm lucky that I didn't get shut off yesterday. He said he understands that and he doesn't really have a problem with it. I told him I'm tired of having it thrown in my face. He said he doesn't. I told him DF does. </p><p></p><p>He asked what set this off and I told him about the incident Sunday where DF threw a little temper tantrum; and that I bite my tongue and it just makes me resentful as hell. I told him that I care about her, but that I really am having a hard time being around her. I was seriously considering returning *everyone's* Christmas gifts this year. I've never done that. (I did take the GPS back, by the way.) I bought DF's gift today - a gift card to a day spa - and while I was buying it I was wondering why I was doing it. I told easy child that I'm not going to live like that....that they can stay here, but there <em>has</em> to be boundaries.</p><p></p><p>He said he understood and that he would talk to DF. </p><p></p><p>We'll see. I at least feel better getting it out. The p/a thing just isn't me. I have to address issues or I just work on a slow boil until it explodes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 328481, member: 7083"] Well, actually.... I just talked to easy child and asked him if they were moving out. He said he didn't know because they couldn't afford it. I know they don't want to go to my mom's because she's 45 minutes away and their work (if easy child gets the job it looks like he's getting, too) and DF's school are up here. I told him that they don't have to move out, but that things HAVE to change. I told him that I will not be told how to parent by an 18 year old kid who has never raised a child, let alone a child with issues like difficult child. And, yes, I have addressed this before. I told him that I appreciate the things they do around the house, but that I'm not going to have it thrown in my face. And I told him that difficult child resents the hell out of them just as much as they resent her. easy child said he doesn't resent her. I told him that DF does, and that I'm not playing referee any more between an adult teenager and a teenage teenager. I get it from both sides, and I'm not having it. Besides, DF moved into difficult child's home. She doesn't get to change the rules. He said he doesn't mind running errands, it's just when he goes out 3 times a day. I apologized for that, but my brain just really doesn't work. I honestly didn't know what day it was this morning. It took me 15 minutes to remember that the computer could tell me. I forgot to pay the water bill and I'm lucky that I didn't get shut off yesterday. He said he understands that and he doesn't really have a problem with it. I told him I'm tired of having it thrown in my face. He said he doesn't. I told him DF does. He asked what set this off and I told him about the incident Sunday where DF threw a little temper tantrum; and that I bite my tongue and it just makes me resentful as hell. I told him that I care about her, but that I really am having a hard time being around her. I was seriously considering returning *everyone's* Christmas gifts this year. I've never done that. (I did take the GPS back, by the way.) I bought DF's gift today - a gift card to a day spa - and while I was buying it I was wondering why I was doing it. I told easy child that I'm not going to live like that....that they can stay here, but there [I]has[/I] to be boundaries. He said he understood and that he would talk to DF. We'll see. I at least feel better getting it out. The p/a thing just isn't me. I have to address issues or I just work on a slow boil until it explodes. [/QUOTE]
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